Four days to go and a difficult guest situation :( :(

Not so much of a tricky situation. I would just be totally honest to her and her bf that with just 4 days to go, arrangements have already been made of where ppl are staying and you simply have no room at the inn. I see no reason to 'pussyfoot' around this girl that you dont know. Sorry if that sounds harsh and bitchy. Just think with it so close to your big day, why worry yourself. Its her bfs responsibility to put her up somewhere really, not yours hun.

I always say honesty is the best policy but done with tact so as not to cause affence. Sorry if I have not helped at all x

I do tend to try and not upset anyone, but you're right, I really do not have any room in my flat. I'll probably upset my boyfriend and his best man in the process though...always has to be me breaking bad news!

To be completely honest (and horrible) I think I'd prefer her not to come at all if she thinks it's ok to not RSVP until the last minute and stay at the house of someone she doesn't know. In her situation, I know I'd stay with my boyfriend even if I had to be sneaky about it. But that's probably just stress and nerves talking, I'm not normally nasty

Seriously tell her to do one, you're not being fussy, there's lots of reasons both practically and emotionally why this won't work.

Don't *** foot around just be firm but polite. EEither that or your OH needs to step up and do it

Possibly she is staying with her BF but telling her parents she is not. Just say no to her staying with you it really isn't practical and I am sure she doesn't want to

Reading between the lines here, I dont think she will actually stay with you just that she is telling her parents she is. But I see why this would be keeping you awake with only 4 days to go! I would reply her telling her you are very sorry but there must be some confusion as you do not have any space and so can not have her staying with you. It is the night before your wedding no reasonable person can expect to stay with the bride (who she does not know) the night before such a big day! You are not being unreasonable, there is no way I would let her stay!!

Good luck for you big day?

hmmm, then tell him to man up! you've gonna be his wife, you need to work as a team and back each other.

I agree with the above that she will probably stay with her boyfriend but has told her parents otherwise.

Get your OH to check the situation with his friend by text rather than replying on FB. It is highly unlikely that this poor girl wants to gatecrash your hen night...seems more likely that the men have decided they don't want her tagging along with them. You're quite right: four people in a 1-bed flat is more than enough. Get the pair of them booked into a travellodge and relax!

I agree with everyone else - she's not your responsibility to put up, think she is going to tell her parents she is staying with you and stay with BF with the boys or in a hotel!

try not to let this stress you, enjoy your last days as a single lady have a great night with the girls the night before and more importantly have an amazing wedding day!!!

Completely agree with everyone, of course you're not being unreasonable not wanting her to stay. I think this is your OH's problem to be honest as it's his best man's plus 1. She's lucky you're even letting her come to the wedding if she said she couldn't come until last week! Ask your OH calmly to deal with it for you, but put your foot down that she's not staying at yours.

My thoughts exactly. You don't need randoms staying at your place the day before your wedding. You will be busy, anxious and stressed enough already. Plus you want a goodnights sleep before your wedding.

Reply:

'Ah, I remember those days. Have you told your parents you're staying with me, instead of admitting you're staying with your boyfriend? Would have appreciated a headsup about it though. Are you staying at XYZ's house or have you booked a cheeky hotel? I might need to know, in an emergency.'

Thank you everyone I've told him our street name and asked my boyfriend to sort everything else out.

We also had a random 30 year old cousin who's been abroad for the last god knows how many years deciding he'd like to come... and I was told TODAY. My aunt casually phoned my mum today thinking everyone was paying for their meal (where she got that from I have no idea because literally nobody else thinks that) and I apparently can't get upset because she altered my dress and is getting a wedding present for us. Also, I still don't know when my friend is turning up and she's one of the witnesses...etc etc etc soo much stress....

Pretty much reached the end of what I can manage, from now on I'm not stressing out over inconsiderate people And if anything else happens I'm not dealing with it.

Honestly.On the day- it wont matter. Just smile and grab a glass of wine. All will be fine.

Since posting that, I've spoken to the boyfriend (best man) of this girl and he told me his girlfriend's parents are so terrified of them sleeping together they're trying to make her go on birth control just to attend our wedding. She's 18 this year. Not really annoyed now, I just feel a bit sorry for them, glad my own parents were a bit more relaxed when I was 17/18! :s

Blimey! They are going the wrong way about it IMO. If she's 17 she's bound to want to boink the hell out of him. They should just let her bloody get on with it- she's not a baby!

However- has the issue been solved? Where is she straying?

Excellent typo! Ha.

Ha! Fecking iPhone. The space bar on our pc doesn't work and my phone autocorrects to random ***. Technology hates me.

Not being helpful .. just nosy ... how old is the boyfriend? ? I can see why parents are fussing but it's not your problem ... hope it's all sorted xx

Haha saucy wink

She is staying with her boyfriend- we gave her parents an address on his street (not his because we don't know the postcode) and when they turn up on friday my boyfriend will tell them the arrangements. The girl's boyfriend 18, seems a bit extreme. And they are sleeping together (tmi from best man when I spoke to him earlier :s) obviously, so it's too late for the overprotective parents! Not my problem. Let's just hope the parents don't demand phone numbers and come and check where she is! hahaha

I think the most important thing is that you feel comfortable and surrounded by the people you are closest too just before your big day. You have a right to put your view forward. I hope it all goes well- I'm sure it will!

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Well...she was a bit of a nightmare but the wedding went smoothly! so that's all that matters

Tell us more! Glad you had a great day though!

Well it all went SO fast! Like, the ceremony felt like about five minutes although my mum told me after it had been quite long. I nearly had a panic attack waiting to go in, I was hyperventilating haha-really don't like being centre of attention. My dad pretty much cried the whole day because I'm the first daughter to get married and my husband's dad also cried. No crying from the mums it was just the dads getting weepy haha. It had been raining all week but the sun came out for our day (I can't help thinking my dear granddad who is no longer with us had a hand in that ) and it was just lovely. Wouldn't do it again and I was shattered by the end but it was really nice. Just got our guestbook back and got emotional all over again, we really do have lovely family. My aunt even decorated the pub room for us as a surprise and got the little bits and pieces I hadn't thought to include but I loved having.

so, so happy-the stress was totally worth it

Glad it all went well for you. Congrats Mrs!

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