Freaking out about wedding

I think it's normal to freak out over all of those things. I know I've already freaked out over some of them. But I really think it will all be fine and I'm sure you will look stunning. Your other half will love how you look and I think that will fill you with confidence on the day. I don't have any ideas on how to cope with the anxiety but I didn't want to read and run.

Get yourself some rescue remedy for the really stressful bits.

In the meantime, have a night off. Bottle of wine, or whatever your favourite tipple is, crappy tv or a comedy film on the box and a bit of popcorn (it's fat free!).

Although, my advice is dreadful really as I feel just the same and have 3 months to go!!

Good luck!

x

Deep breaths! you will look and feel amazing on the day, but given that it is the biggest day of your life you are bound to feel a bit wobbly - it is perfectly normal.

Try Rescue Remedy or Kalms, and if you can do a bit of yoga it will help you sleep, and bring things to a bit of a balance.

You will look beautiful - every bride does!

These things happen with the brides when just few days and week are left for the wedding. For this just believe in yourself, have confidence. Try everything previously, choose the dress in which you feel happy and comfortable.

Talk to your partner, discuss these things with him, this way you feel relax , Avoid family conflict and limit attending events before wedding. LOVE yourself.

Go for meditation that will significantly lower your stress levels. Take massage and hot bath with lavender oil. Just simply learn to relax yourself ?

Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Who cares?! Yes of course, we all worry but every one of your points was about your appearance. You mentioned that you have low confidence about your looks but worrying over what people will think of you is just unnecessary - have you thought that people might think you look beautiful? That your hair and make up are lovely? That your dress shows off your figure? Think positively, it's your wedding day, enjoy it and don't let your insecurities ruin it for you.

Totally understand. I hate having photos taken, I can't smile to order, I have a wonky tooth that I am very conscious of...I have told our photographer that I am in the league of Chandler from Friends in bad photo smiles. So I am worried that I will ruin them all. I am not at all confident of my looks, I have lost nearly 2 stone for the wedding but still see wobbly bits.

And my dress is a black handfasting dress, the only 2 people who have seen it so far are my mum and sister and they both just looked at me and went 'mmm' then changed the subject. Hardly confidence building. I love my dress and it is very me but I do think some people will be a bit shocked by it!

I think the thing to remember about your wedding day is how much fun you had and how much joy was shared. You could look perfect and have spent a million pound but if your not having fun then whats the point? Dont obsess about the little stuff you can never please everyone anyway. Its YOUR wedding they are just invited along to it to celebrate with you if they arent happy they dont have to come. If you feel happy and confident that is what you will project x

Ah love, that's horrible to feel that way. Hopefully everyone on here has helped reduce your fears a little.

Please try to remember that everyone coming is there because they love and care about you and your groom. They most certainly will not laugh at you or your dress. I have never been to a wedding where anyone has ever said anything negative about the bride and how she looks.

Something about weddings make guests all dizzy with love and joy (probably all that free booze), and people are always gushing about how lovely everything is, and how pretty the bride is, and how happy they look. Trust me, your guests will be saying the same about you and your groom too.

And on the day, it will all go so fast, you won't really have time to think about any of this stuff. You will be swept up in everything, and pushed along in the day, and none of your thoughts will be on "did I choose the right dress?" etc. And hopefully it will be an amazingly happy and wonderful day, and you will look back at your photos in years to come and not remember any of these thoughts and stresses and just be reminded of a glorious day.

Good luck with your hair and make up trial - I hope that helps ease your concerns a little too. Big hugs. x

^^^ This!

Calm down and try and focus for a bit on how lovely it will be for you and OH to share your special day with your nearest and dearest, rather than worrying about the dress/hair/make-up aspects.

Do you ever watch 'Don't tell the Bride?' When the dress doesn't fit well or the pregnant bride has walked a marathon or had their hair squished into a parachuting helmet?....and the groom turns as the bride arrives at his side and she takes his breath away?

That is all that matters. That look, that moment. It doesn't matter if someone laughs at your dress (who would do that anyway?), it doesn't matter if nothing is as you imagined it would be: all you need to do is take his breath away for that second.

It doesn't matter what 'people' or 'they' think. Only one other person matters on your wedding day, and you know, you already absolutely know, that the colour of your lipstick isn't going to matter to him at that moment.

Stop doubting: you had good reasons for every one of your choices and therefore they reflect you. You're who he's marrying, you're whom he loves.

It's comforting to know I'm not the only one worrying about all of this. I wake up thinking about it so I must dream it too!

I hate my teeth. My OH says they're cute but I've tried smiling in a heap of different ways in the mirror and I look ghastly in all of them! I look so tired as well and look it! And I'm 2 months away from my wedding so it's only going to get worse!

Sorry I can't be of any help, it's just nice to know others are going through the same thing! x

This gave me butterflies! And i am NOT a gushy, romantic type of person!!

I totally AM a gushy romantic type, and this is sort of what I was going to say but a million times better. Your H2B loves you, and the emotion in his eyes will get you through any tiny crises of confidence on the day.

I also totally agree that it sound like you need a night off, with distractions, so that you can stop thinking about this stuff.

Hi, thanks for those messages and tips. I feel some what better and I know you are right , our friends love us and want to be there. I am prone to overthinking so I shall definetly get some rescue remedy and try some yoga.

Hi CrazyRat lady,

Yep I hate photos too. I am always looking in the wrong direction with all my limbs at awkward angles.

I have been taking selfies recently whilst laughing at funny jokes which has shown that I can take a decent picture as long as i don't pose. So you may want to try that.

Worth a try, I don't do selfies or any other photo if I can get away with it though, I look demented! Seriously, I cannot keep my eyes fully open with a flash, so I look half asleep, with a fake wonky grin. Lovely. Our photographer will earn her money!!