Friday wedding

Love the date but honestly people wont be put out. It also gives them a 3 day weekend??

Think of it this way, the people that really matter will make the effort to be there. There are exceptions e.g. I'm a teacher so there's no way I would be able to go at the start of July as its during term time. And of course kids as you've mentioned. Only you know how many of your guests this applies to. I'm guessing not many or you wouldn't have booked it in the first place. Stop stressing!

I doubt it will impact on guest numbers really.

There could be issues with child guests as they can't get a day off school these days for weddings - only if the wedding is of an immediate relative. That might help you in a way!

I photograph a decent number of Friday weddings, it's a popular day.

I doubt it will impact on guest numbers really.

There could be issues with child guests as they can't get a day off school these days for weddings - only if the wedding is of an immediate relative. That might help you in a way!

I photograph a decent number of Friday weddings, it's a popular day.

I got married on a Monday. We did have a couple of people who couldnt get the time off, but they both work in schools so we were aware they probably wouldn't be able to come. Apart from that, all our drop outs were on the day and due to illness which couldnt be helped.

I wouldnt worry too much x

Friday's a good day. Nice long weekend after. You might have to accept some people won't be able to make the day but should be ok for the evening and it's not because they don't care, just they can't xx

That's all you need to worry about. People will come and they won't feel put out at all. Fridays are so popular now.

I hope Friday is ok, as that's our day too! We picked late July as we have a few teacher friends and a small number of children coming (my own included). We figure that anyone who really wants to be there wouldn't think twice about booking a days leave. A lot of our friends work shifts so it wouldn't necessarily mean that a Saturday wedding would suit them any better. You can't tie yourself up in knots trying to please everyone, so do what works for you.

I got married on a Sunday and my best friend (who is more like a brother to me) couldn't come due to work. There will always be people who can't make your date, whether it's weekday or weekend, but as long as you give them enough notice they will try and you just have to be gracious in accepting that those who can't, can't.

Personally I couldn't as my mum and best friend are both teachers, but I have been to weekday weddings before and didn't have a problem with it. I think it just depends on who you think wouldn't come, and how important it is to you for them to be there.

We're doing a Friday in school hols due to the number of teachers / kids coming to ours.

Be warned that 99% of kids won't be able to get the day off (they get fined now) and the parents will probably have to vanish at 3 to pick them up.

I know people say 'get childcare' which is fine but at a family wedding ALL of my potential babysitters would be in attendance!!

If someone want to be there, they will be there (obvious biggies excluded). We sent save the dates Feb last year ahead of our wedding in August this year. Contacting a few ppl for up to date addresses and thus happened;

A cousin - sorry I'm on holiday that day

Brother - I'll have to see what my work shifts are (he's a baker and known a year of the date)

In other words, if someone CBA it doesn't matter what day you pick. Your day is YOUR day, and those important will come

If someone want to be there, they will be there (obvious biggies excluded). We sent save the dates Feb last year ahead of our wedding in August this year. Contacting a few ppl for up to date addresses and thus happened;

A cousin - sorry I'm on holiday that day

Brother - I'll have to see what my work shifts are (he's a baker and known a year of the date)

In other words, if someone CBA it doesn't matter what day you pick. Your day is YOUR day, and those important will come

We recently went to a Friday wedding that did end up causing us much stress! It was a family wedding and my 2 daughters were BM's. It was a fair distance away so we had to leave straight from school on the Thursday and drive for hours pay for a hotel for 2 nights (thur and fri) take 1 and a half days off work ( me and OH are both contractors so we both lost the pay as we dont get holiday pay) Also the arguing with school over the kids having the day off. All in all with lost pay, hotels, petrol, the Bm dresses i had to pay for, drinks and a gift it cost us a small fortune!

I suppose it is personal choice and if people want to be there they will (like we did for our family)

xx

My wedding will also be on a Friday. I think it's becoming more of the norm these days, and also helps out with costs when paying for a wedding sometimes. We did have a think about the guests coming to the whole day, if it would be practical for them to come on a Friday - most have weekday, 9-5 jobs so it wouldn't be too much of a problem for them, and i've always been happy to take a day off for a wedding for a family member / close friend. I think if people are given a lot of notice, they may well be able to sort things out so they can attend. I've known teachers who have been able to attend weekday weddings (they had enough notice to sort out cover, but it may be dependant on individual schools) and also shift workers who were able to move things around. On top of that, we wanted to get married in 2015 and when we booked (last June) we were told there were no Saturdays left for our venue and only 4 Saturdays in 2016!

I'm getting married on a Friday too & i'm being especially awkward cos it's abroad. . I've always been happy to take time off for weddings but no matter what day you book there will always be someone that can't attend for whatever reason.

When my sister got married on a friday, her wedding was full to the brim. it really depends on the ages of the kids & everyone's jobs. Besides, smaller weddings are beomcing quite fashionable these days it seems. :-)

Thanks for all your thoughts, this site keeps logging me out and doing strange things so ive been unable to reply till now as I gave up last night! I r spoken to our venue today and they can change it for a sat in June but there will be a £100 charge which is understandable as we've changed it once allready. think I might change it for a sat in June. I know people important to us would come but I don't want to risk causing them any difficulties and then this with children Will poss struggle. and of course we have 2 children of our own! So want the other children there for them to play with! I'm hoping to have garden games of we get a nice day and they have loads of grass to run around on! Wasted if there in school! Plus I want as many of our friends and family as possible to see us get married and our lovely venue etc :-)

Only £100 difference? I would go for the Saturday then and you have more chance of having every one you want at the wedding with you.

£100 extra's a good price, saves people having a problem getting their children out of school... ;-)

As long as you haven; booked any other suppliers then go for it !

Well origionally it was £5000 for a fri in sept then changed to fri in July for £6000 but now most likely sat in June for £6000 plus the £100 charge so yea prob best to go with the June of I wanted a sat in july it would be £7000

Send your save the dates slightly earlier than you may have done.... We did ours 12months before, to tell you the truth we were secretly hoping that the Friday date may mean some people couldn't come as we've quite a big guest list, but not one person has said anything about not being able to make it or not being sure. That said the only children coming are not of school age or are immediate family. We're yet to do our invites so may get some declines but people who want to be there will do all they can to be there x

We are getting married on a Friday. We don't have any children coming though apart from our 2 nephews who are 1 and 3 just because none of our friends have children at school age! My cousins are having days off from university but that is easier I guess. We have had 4 people who have said they can't come ( and 1 of those is my aunt in New Zealand!) and 6 who can't come to the day but are coming to the evening. Out of 85 day guests and a further 40 for the evening we have done quite well! I think a Friday is easier for people than a Thursday or other weekday as they don't have to get 2 days off work. We went to a wedding on a Monday in December and a lot of people left early as they hadn't got the Tuesday off. Part of ours was down to budget - if we could have afforded a Saturday we would have done, so if you can afford the Saturday and would be happier with it I would say go for that

Our daughter got married on a Friday and the only problem guest wise was my husband's cousin and her husband as they are both teachers and live in Southampton. As the wedding was in Yorkshire, it would have meant them taking the Thursday off as well in order to travel up here for the wedding on Friday and stay overnight and as they work at the same school, it wasn't possible for them to take time off.

The only children who were in attendance were children of the Groom's family who came from America so they were on holiday anyway so it all worked out well in the end. The vast majority of their guests were friends as we only have a small family. All of their friends attended as they thought it was a brilliant idea having it on a Friday so they could have a long weekend! Most either booked a day off or threw a sickie!

I can understand it causing problems for guests who would have to take children out of school though. If you really want everyone and their children to be there, then perhaps £100 is worth paying to change to a Saturday as others have said.

I've been to my fair share of Friday weddings and I love them, as others way it gave us a long weekend, and its nice to use a day's holiday for a special occasion.

We are getting married on a Thursday as it was 2k cheaper than a Friday & Sunday, 3k cheaper than a Saturday!! It's ridiculous lol. We are doing ithe in school holidays as my best friend and MOH is a teacher. We aren't having any children there. Tbh we are hoping it being on a Thursday means some people won't be able to make it as our guest list is big haha.

I agree with what's been said about not worrying, most people won't mind taking a day off work. However if you've invited a lot of children you should assume they wont attend. For £1000 in price difference.....you need to decide what means more. Saving £1k but risking children & some adults not coming. Or spending another £1k but having a better chance of everyone including children being able to attend.