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VikingPrincess, 28 April, 2011 at 22:53 Posted on Planning 0 3

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For the first time since I started wedding planning over a year ago, I have actually cried tonight for the first time.

I was quite excited tonight, about the Royal Wedding and the Vintage Wedding Fayre at Harewood House where they will have huge plasma screens showing the Royal Wedding, and about being on holiday now til 9th May.

Then, I happened to glance at our Facebook event page for the wedding, as I hadn't been on that page for a bit, and discovered amonst the 5 "Not Attending" RSVPs the name of a good friend who lives down South. She never said she was definitely coming but when she received the STD card she said she put the date in the diary. She would have been my only Romanian friend or family apart from my Mum who could come. Her husband is quite well-off and they used to own a recruitment agency, and let's just say it will not be money reasons why she can't come. I don't know if to take that answer seriously or wait for the actual RSVP back when invites go out in August. Do you take seriously RSVPs received on a Facebook page?? I have emailed her tonight and skirted delicately round the issue but mentioning I'd seen her reply and that I was sorry she couldn't come and hope they were both well. (Her husband had cancer about 2 years ago but they got it early and he was OK in the end). They have just returned from a safari in Kenya and another trip to the Maldives...

I am starting to hate that we chose 23rd December as nice as that seemed at first, because people are reluctant to sacrifice their usual pre-Xmas week. At this rate, soon we won't have enough people to fulfill our contract with the venue (min. 40 people for Wedding Breakfast)!!! Everyone is dropping like flies! And the invites haven't even gone out yet!!!! Even my best friend from childhood was was going to give me away looks less and less like he's actually gonna come!

I wish I had the problems that people usually have, of who to cut off the list!!! We will end up having to invite people we are not 100% bothered about just to make up numbers!!!

No need to reply, honestly, just needed to vent!

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Latest activity by Inspire Me Designs, 29 April, 2011 at 08:45

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excitedbee · 28 April, 2011 at 22:58
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Oh i'm really, sorry. It's horrible when people important to you can't come. I'm sure your friend has good reason not to come, Big hugs
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SaSaSi · 28 April, 2011 at 23:03
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*hugs* try not to get too upset.....there could be any no of reasons - or maybe she clicked a wrong button. Until she replies (agonising I'm sure!) try not to dwell on it. If she doesn't reply in a couple of days I would ring her. The sad thing is when ur planning a wedding peopke who u thought were rocks turn out to be snakes. I hope this isn't the case for u but me+oh have had our eyes open with a lot of people. And ur date _ yes some people may have traditions they are unwilling to give up but for each one of those there will a guest there with bells on! Doesn't matter what date u pick it won't suit all ur guests. I have an uncle who I think the world of unable to make our wedding - he is in a competition that day. Don't be so hard on yourself - weddings are extremely stressful - if u need a wee cry have one. X
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VikingPrincess · 28 April, 2011 at 23:07
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Thanks! I know she must have. I am not taking it personally, I am fully aware people have their own lives etc but both me and especially my OH, are used to people letting us down and hoped at least for our wedding to have our nearest and dearest there to share it with us. So far the most enthusiastic "yes" responders have been people we would have not really been too upset if they had declined! i don't mean that in a mean or rude way. For example, a work colleague I feel obliged to invite said she was coming definitely,...and now we're finding that we may have to invite to the day do people we would have only invited to the evening do, just to make up the minimum numbers... oh, how I envy people with big families and circles of friends... I have neither...
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Inspire Me Designs · 29 April, 2011 at 08:45
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Awww... That's sad to hear.

I would still send out the invite as it would be a bit more formal at that point and they may reconsider. They have enough time to change their minds.

Don't think that about your date. It's not like it;s in between Christmas and New Year which maybe more difficult. There is still Christmas Eve for people to get to where they need to be before Christmas day.

Nat
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