Funerals - I think this is a great idea.

I think it's a fantastic idea. I also like the idea of photos from happy events in my life.

I've already picked my coffin. [:I]?

I've always wanted a pink one and Mr M found one whilst browsing a coffin catalogue in the undertakers last week, that's the one I'm going to have.

I'm also going to insist there is no black and everyone must smile while celebrating my life, not cry while mourning my death. ?

quote:Originally posted by Mrs Magic
I've already picked my coffin. [:I]?

I've always wanted a pink one and Mr M found one whilst browsing a coffin catalogue in the undertakers last week, that's the one I'm going to have.

I'm also going to insist there is no black and everyone must smile while celebrating my life, not cry while mourning my death. ?

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How marvelous! Although I'm ? at the image of someone sitting with a cuppa browsing a coffin catalogue. Still better prepared than not I'd say.

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I think its a great idea. There was a guy on the news a while back and he had a terminal illness. His kids had spent weeks decorating his coffin for him, painting it, attaching photos and stuff. Might seem a bit weird but if it helped the kids cope when he finally went I guess it worked.

Blue and White Hooooopsaaaaah. It's already been discussed. The coffin will be blue and white, the flowers blue and white and everyone will turn up in a QPR shirt.

I almost added I can barely wait but I think I can.

This made me laugh from Rev Steve Walters,

"I won't be conducting funerals for coffins covered in images from horror films or "soft porn", even if it does sum up the person's life."


and [B)] to Bob.

It's not his usual reading material of choice ? but was given a catalogue to browse when planning his grandad's funeral a couple of weeks ago.

I have a different take on death to many people and it's certainly the only sure thing that's going to happen to all of us. I'm aware that I may not live a long life (although I certainly hope I do) and I want to be prepared for that time, whenever it may be.

I talk to everyone close to me about mine and their funeral wishes, I think it's such an important thing to know. When the time comes and my mum dies (again, hopefully it will be years away), I know everything she wants and it will certainly be a weight lifted when I don't have to make the decisions at the time. I guess some may think I'm morbid, in fact I know they do!

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Blue and White Hooooopsaaaaah. It's already been discussed. The coffin will be blue and white, the flowers blue and white and everyone will turn up in a QPR shirt. id="red">
I almost added I can barely wait but I think I can.

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Really?

quote:Originally posted by Chicken
Blue and White Hooooopsaaaaah. It's already been discussed. The coffin will be blue and white, the flowers blue and white and everyone will turn up in a QPR shirt.

I almost added I can barely wait but I think I can.

id="quote">Chook, if you go first, I'll gladly don a QPR shirt and I'll even turn my chair blue and white for you too. ?

quote:Originally posted by Mrs Magic
It's not his usual reading material of choice ? but was given a catalogue to browse when planning his grandad's funeral a couple of weeks ago.

I have a different take on death to many people and it's certainly the only sure thing that's going to happen to all of us. I'm aware that I may not live a long life (although I certainly hope I do) and I want to be prepared for that time, whenever it may be.

I talk to everyone close to me about mine and their funeral wishes, I think it's such an important thing to know. When the time comes and my mum dies (again, hopefully it will be years away), I know everything she wants and it will certainly be a weight lifted when I don't have to make the decisions at the time. I guess some may think I'm morbid, in fact I know they do!

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I don't think that sounds morbid at all and I'm much the same. The only difficulty for me is my mum giving me the brush off if I try to talk about it (her wishes I mean), she won't even talk to my dad about it. Still everyone's different I suppose. H and I have had many conversations about it this past year and I think it's actually a very cathartic thing to do.


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I ve planned my funeral as well. i want a cardboard boax to be in, then be cremated to the sounds of "you shook me all night long" by ACDC, and then everyones going to have a big party, get horribly pissed, and behave badly. those are my instructions. oh yes, and no bugger is allowed to weear black, or a hat of any kind.

Mrs M I agree with a lot of what you're saying. A family friend died recently and it led to us talking about what we want a bit more. My dad died suddenly at 49 and my mum didn't have a clue what he wanted because they'd never discussed it, she made the decision to have him cremated based on the fact he hated the duty of visiting his parents graves with his aunty so wouldn't want that for us but we'll never know if we did the right thing.

I think a decorated coffin is a fantastic idea, a proper send off! I told my mum everyone has to wear pink to my funeral ?

It's a very good idea!

i want a bell on my coffin. i saw one in a film when i was a little girl and thought it would be grand. i quite fancy it in emerald green or bright orange.

as an aside i want everyone dressed in black and a great deal of wailing and gnashing of teeth during my most moving and befitting service. afterwards when the tissues have been disposed of it's pink champagne all the way and time to move on with laughter.

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i ve planned my funeral as well. i want a cardboard boax to be in, then be cremated to the sounds of "you shook me all night long" by ACDC, and then everyones going to have a big party, get horribly pissed, and behave badly. those are my instructions. oh yes, and no bugger is allowed to weear black, or a hat of any kind.

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my mum wants to be burried in a cardboard box under a tree

quote:Originally posted by NickJ
i ve planned my funeral as well. i want a cardboard boax to be in, then be cremated to the sounds of "you shook me all night long" by ACDC, and then everyones going to have a big party, get horribly pissed, and behave badly. those are my instructions. oh yes, and no bugger is allowed to weear black, or a hat of any kind.

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Is that a typical Saturday at NickJ's house minus the being dead part? ?

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quote:Originally posted by NickJ
i ve planned my funeral as well. i want a cardboard boax to be in, then be cremated to the sounds of "you shook me all night long" by ACDC, and then everyones going to have a big party, get horribly pissed, and behave badly. those are my instructions. oh yes, and no bugger is allowed to weear black, or a hat of any kind.

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My FIL insisted on having Light my fire by The Doors as his coffin was taken into away at the crem. He also said no one was allowed to wear black. MIL was petrified of offending people but the song actually raised a smile in many people.

Yes, really.

Thanks Mogic. If you go first I can't promise I won't cry I'm afraid!

Before the marathon I gave Holio some funeral/mourning instructions in case I died on route.

For me at least, i dodnt really get the wearing black thing. youre dead, if people liked you then can celebrate the fact you made them smile, if they didnt like you, they dont have to go.

i like the quite by bernard manning when asked if he would prefer to be buried or cremated. he said "surprise me" ?

Light my fire, that's brilliant!

I don't get the black thing either. I do tend to wear mostly black to funerals with one item of colour, mainly as it's seen as the norm and I'd hate to offend. I wore pink to my grandmother's funeral, as did my cousin and we were the 'principle mourners'. We also played Chariots of Fire, mainly as my uncle played the drums for the film and we wanted him represented there. It wasn't until later that we made the cremation and fire link though. ?

The other thing I don't want is flowers, you can stick an arrangement of sunflowers or gerberas in the hearse with me then take it to an old folk's home for them to enjoy but I don't want the world and his granny to spend money on arrangements that will rot. Spend the money on the living or give it to charity.

At least wearing black everyone gets to look good.

I don't get the point about letting people know your wishes. When I'm gone I won't know what they do anyway - funerals are for the mourners, not the dead person.

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at least wearing black everyone gets to look good.

I don't get the point about letting people know your wishes. When I'm gone I won't know what they do anyway - funerals are for the mourners, not the dead person.

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And the mourners may well feel more comfortable if they have a funeral in a style they think you might have liked.

Zooropa, I don't agree. Each funeral I have arranged or been involved with, I've been very concious that I wanted the service to reflect them as a person and their wishes. I could have picked all my favourite music but then if would have been about me and not them. A funeral to me is about remembering the deceased, that the whole point in eulogies etc otherwise it would be extremely 'woe is me, please give me sympathy' for the people left behind.

I think people can look good in colour. Hardly anyone wore black to our wedding but still looked good!

I want to be cremated to the sound of The Bloodhound Gang's "Fire, Water, Burn".

Everyone has to get chronically pissed.

I'd like my ashes loaded into 12ga. cartridges along with number 6 shot and plinked at clays the following weekend before another mammoth pissup.

I love the idea of photos in general at a funeral. I also want the Scissor Sisters' 'The Other Side' played at mine and for lots of pink, especially champagne.

I'm being chucked off a boat in the north sea in a coffin specially coated to be a good substrate for marine organisms. not yet, hopefully but that's the ultimate plan for me.

I think it's a great idea.

My mum has said that she wants Meatloaf's Life is a lemon and I want my money back' playing ? when she goes. My cousin worked in the aviation industry and had the Dambusters theme played at his funeral which was such a lovely touch.

Me, I think I would like a coffin in the shape of a red 4-inch heeled shoe and 'I've had the time of my life' playing.

Nick, will there be dirty dancing girls at the wake? I do hope so ?

Those coffins are cool, I love the whale one. I think I'd like one to look like a Prada bag. I'm having "Died peacefully in Prada" on my gravestone ?

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I want to be cremated to the sound of The Bloodhound Gang's "Fire, Water, Burn".

Everyone has to get chronically pissed.

I'd like my ashes loaded into 12ga. cartridges along with number 6 shot and plinked at clays the following weekend id="red">before another mammoth pissup.

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I love that idea. My grandad said he wanted his ahses scattered anywhere and he would go in the eyes of his enemies, I wonder if he did. ?

We did this when my little brother died my boys stuck power ranger stickers all over his casket and then tied helium balloons to it. We did get a few strange looks off some people but we loved it and it really helped my boys get through a crappy time.

quote:Originally posted by Chicken
Blue and White Hooooopsaaaaah. It's already been discussed. The coffin will be blue and white, the flowers blue and white and everyone will turn up in a QPR shirt.

I almost added I can barely wait but I think I can.

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We've got father in laws funeral on Monday. We have gone for having his coffin draped in a Reading flag. Flowers are the RFC badge. Instructions are to wear a Reading shirt or at least blue and white.

I hope it pulls off. He died at 73 having followed the club since he was little so it seems a fitting tribute.


H has been planning my funeral this week (obviously due to his dads death we've been having a bit of a morbid one). He has decided that the only fitting track would be Guns N' Roses - I used to love her (but I had to kill her)?

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My grandad said he wanted his ahses scattered anywhere and he would go in the eyes of his enemies, I wonder if he did. ?

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Friends of my Dad's were scattering their fathers ashes over a rosebush in the churchyard when the wind changed direction. "Oh Dad!" they muttered as they brushed down their suits ?

My friend's parents were going to play one of her favourite songs at her funeral, but decided that 'Always Look in the Bright Side of Life' might upset older relatives. I think it would have been quite cool ?

Oh dearie me, no.

I want everyone in black, bloody massive hats, a hearse drawn by two black plumed horses and I shall stipulate that someone throw themselves across the coffin screeching "what will we ever do without her?".

Then there will be sobbing into vol-a-vents, strong cups of sugary tea and stiff drinks. And a years mourning in black and knockers off doors please.

I like a thing to be done properly ?