FURIOUS!!!!

Ooh yeah post the pic! I want to see!

Oh and I forgot to say I'll happily go and show her my ? side!

i'm going to Scotland next weekend to visit the outlaws you want me to go round and see her for you!!!!!!

please dont let her bully you into something you know you dont want its your wedding and you want to look back on it with happy memories ( just wondering why does she hate the dress you've picked so much?)

J

We think she would cause a fuss no matter what I pick. As soon as I asked her as my FG, I mailed them pics of dresses I liked and every single time they had another excuse. To name a few:

* looks too young
* looks too old
* colour doesn't suit her skin tone
* too puffy
* too plain

I am not kidding!

Oo, and I forgot the best part. Last month I said I'd mail them a shortlist of dresses. She should mail me her top 3 of them, and I would do my best to get one of them. The dress I eventually got was number 2 in her list!!! Remembered this afternoon and checked their mail. It really is.

She sounds awful but I'm pleased your H2B is getting involved as some blokes would not have bothered, understood or want conflict so good on him.

He should phone her, reiterate the 2 options, explain why it has to be the dress you've chosen to fit your wedding theme and paid for but also listen to why she doesn't like the dress - perhaps she thinks it's too revealing, short, doesn't suit her daughter, she doesn't have shoes or a cardi to match etc because clearly there's something wrong with it in her eyes.

Surely if she's married herself she should understand better how important the wedding photos are as memories of the day.

Everytime I see our weddinh photos I don't like the fact that my BIL isn't wearing a buttonhole (H didn't realise despite there being some left over!); another guest is because he's scottish and it's traditional there to get your own and our full group shot has 2 newborn babies in it who had to come for obvious reasons but we didn't want kids there and requested they weren't in any photos.

I would then forward this email to her then, to remind her that its one of the dresses that she origionally liked so you have done more than enough in my opinion.

I think she is just kicking up so much fuss to be a pain in the ass!!!

Grr this woman is making me angry!

It sounds like even if you'd bought the number 1 dress on her list she'd have found a reason to complain about it!

Definitley do what Willownat said and forward her the email back ?

It seems like the dress is no longer the issue, she's just trying to gain control for some reason - the woman is clearly stark raving bonkers! ?

This woman makes me angry and its not anything to do with me!!

Ask her why she is so determined to sabotage her daughter's opportunity. Is she jealous of the little girl looking gorgeous and getting some attention?

Or phone up the little girl and say 'I was so looking forward to you being my FG but your Mummy doesn't want you to be' ?

Don't give in, this woman is being incredibly bizarre for no reason and the person she is mostly hurting is her own little girl.

And I thought my sil2b was bad with our bridesmaid! I agree with sending her the email where she said this was her second choice, see what she says to that. Sil2b didn't like the dress we chose when looking at it over email and told us she thought we were trying to make her look stupid, however everyone loved it once she'd tried it on. Hopefully yours will be the same.

I definitely don't think you should back down, even to keep the peace. You'll look at the photos and just remember the hassle you had with her.

Good luck!

It is YOUR day DO NOT Give in to her.

If she doesn't like it then she can lump it. Stick to your guns & TELL her what the FG is wearing, don't let her bully you into having what she wants. You will regret it everytime you look at those pics & see not only the vile dress she has chosen but also her smug face there knowing she won.

How dare she?!??!?!?!! Smacks of emotional blackmail to me! And she is using her daughter to do it!

Give me her address!!!

I know it's not very easy to reason with someone like that but please dont back down. She sounds like my son when he's told he cant have ice cream (he's 7, it's allowed from him!) All very childish behaviour for a mother.