getting married in a catholic church

The only thing that might be a problem is the fact that you haven't been baptised, but if he already knows that then it should be fine. I married my first husband in a catholic church although it was me that was the catholic, not him and there was no problem at all - its about promising to bring up any future children as catholics and it will be your OH who will do that x

You will need to ask. My friend had to jump through some hoops (don't know what they were) to Marry his Catholic gf in a church - but that was in Ireland.

You may have to apply for a dispensation from the local bishop but your priest will help you with that. You'd probably be best to book a time to discuss it in more detail with your priest so you know for sure before you book too many things. Good luck.

We already have 3 children together and they are baptized catholic.

This^^^^. A lot will depend on the individual Priest, although the Catholic Church is a little more open these days to "mixed" weddings. If you hold a mass too, the Priest will welcom up those from all faiths although with blessing limitations on those no Catholic....They are usually asked to place their arm across their chest to signify not being a Catholic.

Peter

btw, a close friend of mine also had a Pakistani father, along with a German mother and was brought up in Birmingham!!!!! He spoke "southern" English although could easily break in to a truly heavy Asian or Brum dialect when it suited him......

Hi, we're getting married in a Catholic Church, I'm catholic, but my fiancé has never been baptised. The priest has no problem with this. He advised us just to have the ceremony, not the full mass and my fiancé had to get a letter of freedom from his parents

Hi, I'm catholic and OH isn't, not even baptised. It hasn't been an issue - the priest has dealt with it and got the necessary "go-ahead" from the bishop. They aren't as strict these days as they desperately want people to marry in the Catholic Church, so I would advise just making an appointment with the priest and discussing it with him. That way you'll know for sure and some parishes and diocese are stricter/more lenient than others. I'm sure it'll be fine. If they said no then you wouldn't be able to marry in the church and well, they don't want that to happen.

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I'm also in the same position and it is reasonably easy to sort out in that you have to get a letter of dispensation from the Bishop to marry outside the Catholic church but the permission is normally granted (we are going through the motions at the moment).

I wouldn't say that they are desperate for us to get married in the church though, we've had to jump through a fair few hoops. It was actually more challenging to get married in a church other than the one I regularly go to (as my venue is in Surrey and I live in London) but that was eventually sorted out as well.

Good luck with everything!

My other half set the date with priest for 1st august 2015 so i didnt get to meet with him then, I wanna meet with him soon as we looking to book a photographer. Does anyone know when i need to get the dispention by. thanks

I would do it sooner rather than later for peace of mind.......

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Peter

You've got plenty of time- I'm getting married in June this year and I've not applied for it yet, just going through the application form. I think it takes about 6-8 weeks to get it. Just take a steer from the priest, ours was pretty relaxed, saying that as long as we have the correct paperwork it shouldn't take long. We had to go on a couple of courses as well (a marriage preparation course a 'natural fertility' one - fun and games!)

OH was told we did not need to do marriage classes as we already have children, Our priest is a bit relaxed. But i do need to speak with regarding wedding OH asked questions but not the same as asking myself.

My logic btw for earlier rather than later was that as its 18 months until your wedding, it might be prudent to get the "paperwork" done in case the Priest moves on to a different church and the new one is more strict. Of course this probably will not happen.........although personally, I like to limit the imponderables.....

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Peter

I'm catholic but H2B isn't. I spoke with my priest & it wasn't going to be easy! Lots of hoops to go through, 6months of marriage classes, promising to raise children as catholics (H2B not keen on this) and priest was also trying to convince H2B to get baptized catholic. In the end H2B felt alot of pressure & felt uncomfortable. So now we are getting married at our venue & the priest will bless our marriage at a later date (although priest wasn't too happy about this!)x

That's what I mean - every parish is different, some more strict, some less so. I would just try and arrange a meeting with your priest - he will be able to sort out the dispensation for you, and give you the right forms to fill in. Usually it is done through the priest as they have direct contact with the Bishop, so it'll probably be easier for him to sort it out for you, OP.

I was in exactly the same position as you, we had to talk with the priest and I agreed that we will raise our children as Catholics etc, but it wasn't a huge problem, I just had to get a letter from my parents to say I was free to marry and had no other specified religion in order to get permission from diocese to marry. It was fine, you should be ok but speak with your priest if you are worried.

We're getting married in the catholic church, i'm not catholic but OH is & our son is too.
Hasn't been a problem, the priest mentioned that they ask you to bring children up in the faith but as he already is it's not a problem.
Every priest is different and some have more modern outlook than others, speak to your priest about it. I'm sure it won't be a problem or he'd have asked you to begin with