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Beginner June 2012

Getting married in seccret

xbabyabyx, 9 May, 2012 at 18:31 Posted on Planning 0 5

Me and my boyfriend are expecting our first baby at the end of June, and would both love to be married before he/she arrives. However, we don't have the time or the money for a big wedding, so have decided to go the registry office with two friends and do it in secret. In years to come we will have a big wedding with all our family and friends. What are your views on this? No one is going to miss out as we will have a religious ceremony and a reception in a few years when we've saved enough!

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Latest activity by fruitbowl_uk, 9 May, 2012 at 21:19
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    Beginner July 2012
    maxinegallie ·
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    Half of me says that sounds very romantic ans stress free. But the other half says is it like lying? You will be married, but not able to wear your wedding rings around anyone else, and when you 'marry' for family to see, you will have already married in actual fact.

    Is there no way to do a registry office wedding soon and just invite close family to go for a pub meal with you afterwards? (they can pay their own), that way they wont ever have the upset of knowing it was fake and you get to be married before the baby comes.

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    Another ? ?

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    Beginner April 2012
    Cilla ·
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    This

    But in case it's genuine......how old are you and your boyfriend? Do your parents know you're pregnant? If you've decided already, does it really matter what our views are?

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    Beginner May 2012
    dlees81 ·
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    All of the above. If you have any sort of relationship with any of them, both of your parents and wider families will be hurt if you keep this from them. I would have thought they would be happy to help you formalise your new little family, if not able to support it financially, I would expect they'd want to at least share a low-key occasion with you. If you really don't want to involve them, but have any respect for them, at least let them know. I would be so sad if my daughter felt the need to keep her marriage from me, because it wasn't a 'proper', big one.

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    Beginner August 2013
    samwiches ·
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    Surely you wouldn't be able to actually have a religious ceremony if you're already married? It would be a renewal of vows, technically, I'd imagine. I'd say if it's what you really want, get married as you planned with the registry office, but tell people about it, perhaps go for a meal with close friends and family as someone else suggested...

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    Beginner September 2013
    fruitbowl_uk ·
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    My friend got married with just 2 witnesses because they wanted to get married before having a family, but I'd always say you're better off being honest with people if that's what you want to do. There'll be people who don't agree with what you've chosen to do, but at least they'll know you've done it and won't be hurt about being lied to

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