Getting slightly annoyed now (AJ your opinion would be helpful here)

Oh dear, makes me wonder what his problem is with just making the call.

I don't know what outfits you're planning, but I know if that was us I'd be saying go and get the kilts ordered pronto!!

No planned outfits just what they want to wear, so no big issue on that. I've ordered them button holes in advance, I don't know what he's worried about, he has until next weekend to ring or I'll do it for him!

Although it's his decision and consequently his problem, I think you're right to be a little concerned about it. With six weeks to go you have things to do - he may need to get a suit (if you're paying for them - or he needs a new one that he's buying), he might need a waistcoat and tie to match your other colour etc - and you can't always get these instantly.

I suppose it depends what he wants the best man to do - if it's just a case of it being a token presence rather than doing anything, someone doesn't need to do any preparation. It doesn't take long to write a speech (although many people, like me, do) and if all he's really doing is looking after the rings, pretty much any idiot can try not to lose them for half an hour

Do you think any part of it is hoping that no best man = no stag do? A lot of guys really don't want one.

I know that we were prepared more than most - but I knew who I wanted to be my best man about 4 years before I even met my b2b! We asked him a couple of weeks after we'd got engaged and he said yes.

Lol AJ, my H2B asked his brother during the call to let him know we were engaged, on the day of our engagement lol. I suppose its gotta be like that with brothers tho really, especially as my OH was his bro's best man 5 years ago

He's having 2 best men, there will be no speech required so it really is a case of them looking after a ring each. They're both coming to the wedding so we know they'll be there.

I guess worst case it they won't get a thank you present as I'm not going to be looking for one after this week as I've got other things to organise. I don't think he's worried about the stag as one of them is lazy so won't organise one and the other is 4 hours away so it'll be impractical.

I'm just about ready to tw*t him!

You need to name your best man/men/person on the details you give to the registrar - he'd better make his mind up quick!

I would explain to him that a decision needs to be made pronto - if he won't make the call pick up the phone and call the numbers yourself and hand the phone to him.

If its any consolation MrMini asked his BM when we got engaged (so nearly 2 years ago) yesterday he stepped down so with 2 weeks to go- prepared is not always the way to go!!

Really??! We haven't had to give details of our best men and our wedding is four weeks on saturday.

Gosh, and I thought my OH was slow. I'd be getting really stressed about it. My OH took ages to ask his best men and he said that it was because he was a bit embarrassed and found it all a bit awkward.

Oh no Mini, thats not handy at all!!!

I'd have nagged like i'd never nagged before!!!

mini - are you feeling a little better now? i remember you saying that your oh's bm wasnt upto much...

xxx

I thought they only needed details of the witnesses?

Or is that just so they know who has the rings etc. for the actual ceremony?

My opinion was that you should ask the best men/bridesmaids before the invitations are sent out. I did have a bit of a spat with my OH as he took ages to ask his best men,this was because he thought he had to choose between them and couldn't rather than putting off asking. When we decided he was having two it was no problem.

In all honesty a month before i was thinking that he had not organised/had best men input on his stag rather than the actual asking which was done six months previous.

I think you have every right to think he should be pulling his finger out...people might think they are second choice/last minute if your wedding has been planned for a while and it is left this late to be asked.

My registrar has asked for details as well, never even thought, i suppose they assume that these will be the witnesses

We had to give details of everything - best person, whos doing the readings, BMs and usher. It was all on the form along with choices for wording of promises, declarations, exchange of rings etc and music choices. I guess it may be different in different counties though.

I thought you needed to name the witnesses only. I'll find out this week when I go to the registrars office

Karen you prob have a fair point there, the Best Man usually is one of the witnesses, but not always lol

It is surpisingly common for grooms to decide on a best man late. Often it can be due to not wanting to upset another friend. If this is the case, why not suggest that he has more than one? My groom from yesterday had FOUR!!!!

Peter