Getting Wed on a Weekday?

Apart from the registrar being a bit cheaper, there was no significant advantage financially or otherwise to us for a weekday wedding, so balancing that against the needs of most of our guests to take one or more days off work - which in itself would probably have meant less people and we wouldn't have been able to reach the minimum numbers required by the venue - we decided that sticking with a saturday would be the overall best option for everyone.

I did a wednesday wedding, My brother did a friday and my sisters booked a thursday!!

Our wedding is on a Wednesday. We got an amazing deal and although we weren't "looking" for a weekday wedding, the date I had in mind happened to be midweek (12/12/12). When I looked at the package we were being offered and realised that to have the exact same package on a Saturday in July would work out over twice as much I just wasn't prepared to pay all that extra money (and it was a lot) to have a Saturday wedding.

We will send our save the dates out with plenty of notice and the people who really want to be there will take a day or two off work.

We're getting married on a friday

it's during school holidays so alot of our family will be booking time off any way rather than pay for child care

also its the friday before a bank holiday weekend - so it'll be a 4 day weekend - wooo!!

i only know 1 person thats got married on a saturday.......

My wedding is on a Thursday,for the day every body apart from one couple are attending that we invited. I did get the invites out six months before and a lot of my friends are nurses so weekends off don't really happen. So far quite a good response for the evening.It was a lot cheaper..about three grand to hire out our venue and it was easier to book florist/tog/hair and make up. Plus we are going for a mini moon on the Friday to the Sunday so that works out really well.

We're getting married 'off season' and on a Thursday! As a result all our supplier's have given us discounts. We were originally getting married in 2012, but we moved the wedding forward a year and kept the date the same, so it's now a Thursday.

We sent out Save The Date's to everyone who would be invited to the day more than a year before, so they would know that if they were planning to attend, that they would get the time off their work.

Considering we made these decisions before we read about how popular they were becoming, we're Feeling a bit ahead of the curve! - Even though this is probably not the case!

We didnt consider a week day wedding but I am a teacher and so lots of my mates are teachers aswell. So a mid week wedding would not have been feasible as loads of people we invited wouldn't have been able to come.

We also had family travelling over 300 miles so they would have needed the day before, the day and the day after off work. My cousin who is a teacher wasn't allowed the Friday off to travel down form near scotland (we were married near Milton Keynes), so she took the Friday unpaid, if we had a midweek wedding she would not have been able to come.

Ours is on a friday.

The Registry Office is cheaper and the tog gave us a cheaper price too. Ours is in the half term in June as OH's little boy needs to be able to take the day off.So a lot of families will be taking the week of as holiday anyway. Plus a lot of my friends/family are teachers/have kids at school, so i thought this was the best time to have it.

We are having a family bbq the day after and as his family live about 180 miles from where we are getting Married we thought it was better that the bbq was on the saturday so guests still have the sunday to rest at home.

Plus we are sending our invites out VERY early. We want to give everyone plenty of notice.

I suppose it helps that the guests in the day are our families and only a few very close friends.

Bx

If I was invited to a during the week wedding I would have to think very hard about it, I wouldn't want to decline just because it was during the week, but as a teacher unless it is a close relative (generally this just means a sibling at the school where I work) then if I was allowed to take it, it would only be as unpaid. Which of course then brings up the issue of cost of going and losing a days wage.

But I can totally understand why bride and grooms get married during the week, the savings are huge.

We're getting married on a Friday, and have got a discount off nearly everything so far due to it being in November and a week day rather than a Saturday. We sent our invites out in June to allow those who need to take time off work/make childcare arrangements to do so, and all but 4 of 75 our guests invited are able to come! x

Here are the stats!

• Monday 3.9%
• Tuesday 2.8%
• Wednesday 3.5%
• Thursday 5%
• Friday 18.9%
• Saturday 60.4%
• Sunday 5.5%
• Source: ONS

We would have struggled with a weekday wedding as we want to invite too many of OH's workmates and they wouldn't be allowed off together and they can't close down midweek (vets!) Weekend is easier as there are no scheduled surgeries and we're getting married close enough for people to be on call from our wedding if they're not busy.

Also we're miles away from our family guests, so they'd need too much time off to come down and go back, so it wouldn't have been practical. Plus our chosen venue and caterers didn't have a mark up for weekend vs midweek, which made it a no-brainer.

I just had to check when our wedding was - I know the date but not the day. It's a Thursday apparently, but irrelevant since we'll be abroad.

I wish people would stop presuming that a Saturday is easiest for people. Many people work on Saturdays these days. I work in the emergency services and have to book time off if people have weekend weddings. Others work in shops, public services, travel and transport, tourism, etc, etc.

We have chosen a Saturday for our reception, and I'm slightly annoyed at having had to do it, but the venue we want is a long way from where anyone lives, so we are expecting people to have to travel. Selfishly, I don't want people leaving early to get home. Had we found a venue nearer here, I would have had no hesitation choosing a weekday.

We are getting married on a Thursday, because the Greek Island only allows weddings monday to friday, but its in the school summer holidays and as most of our guests either have the hols off work anyway or aren't working it shouldnt cause too much of a problem. (fingers crossed!)

Our day was dictated more by the airline flight days than anything else

We are having a weekday wedding. 80% of our day guests are coming from abroad and so we rented a self-catered holiday home for a week. The actual wedding will be on a Wednesday, but as everyone will be there anyway it doesn't really matter. We might lose out on some evening guest, but then most of our friends are teachers and it's in the hols

Hey Rachb3,

We also considered the Friday (4th Nov), but it would have been a bit too tricky as many of my friends and family run their own businesses - taking a Saturday off is easier (less impact) than a Friday.

If they came on a Friday, they would have to work on the Saturday, whereas the Saturday wedding means its less hassle for them.

I don't think our venue had deals for Friday, and the main saving would have been the registar, but hardly worth it for us. As we'd picked the day before we spoke to other suppliesrs, it wasn't clear if we would have saved anything on TOG/florist etc.

I DO like the idea of a spread out wedding though - those that are able to enjoy the wedding over a few days have my envy!

My friend's was on a weekday and it was a bit of a hassle to get days off and its a bit annoying to be using your holidays. When we got engaged we both instantly agreed we didnt want a weekday.

I am getting married on a Monday!!! I have 114 Guests attending the whole day. I think we now work in a society where a lot of people work weekends so even if i was to get married on Saturday alot of people would still have to take the day off work. My package for a weekday wedding is 100 guest for 4 course meal, room hire for cermony room and reception, champange on arrival for bride and groom, cake stand hire, and the bridal suite. All for £1250 pounds any extra guest over the 100 are charged at £20 quid per head. If i had the same package on a Saturday it would be £5000. We also got better deals on venue dressing and car hire as it was a mid week!!! For me it was simple I counld justify spending about £4000 grand more just for a weekend wedding.

I'm finding a jump in Thursday weddings this year. Which is great as I can take on more work.

Couple of years ago you'd get enquires for a Saturday in August that I could of booked 5 times over.

I've 9 weddings this august :

2 x Thursdays

1 x Sunday

3 x Fridays

3 x Saturdays

But hey, August, big month for weddings. I've only 3 next month.

We choose to get married on a Monday purely for the fact that the National Trust property I grew up on as a child, was closed all day on a Monday, so it meant we got the whole place to ourselves. Where as, if we'd choose a day that it was open to the public, we would have had to of got married later on in the day and not used the grounds until around 5.30pm onwards.

xx

I wouldn't mind if it was a Friday, one day off work for a friend is fine. Any other day of the week would either mean having to take two days off work or leaving the reception very early. If my children were invited to however I would be less keen to take them out of school unless it was family or a very close friend.

We couldn't have a weekday wedding though because a huge proportion of our guests wouldn't have been able to come. I work in a college so am friends with lots of teachers who can't take time off in term time. I also wasn't keen on disturbing our eldest's school routine.

My friend is getting married this month on a Thursday and I'm going as he's back from Hong Kong and I really want to see him but as i only get limited holiday I;m driving to Essex from the North West in the morning (250 miles) then back to Leicester to sleep in a travelodge so i can make it to Stoke for 8am the following day. My H2B can't come as he can't get the day off and none of our other mates can make it as they can't get the day off. If he didn't live abroard now I wouldn't have made the effort and I'm likely to be stingy about his present as I'm spending over £100 just to get there.

We considered it but when i thought about how I'd feel if one of my friends asked the same of me i realised it wasn't the right solution for us. We went out of peak season to get the same savings as choosing a week day in summer.

I can see if you're on a really tight budget and only want your very close family there that it can be the right choice.

I've definately found the wedding venues much more accomodating for weekday weddings, offering free room hire, 5% off the food bill. One hotel has two weddings a day but offered us exclusivity as it is midweek. I think if you give enough notice to guests then there shouldnt be issues with attendence.

I considered a weekday, but the darling FiL suggested not so subtley that people wouldn't come to our wedding if we booked the thursday we wanted. Made me feel as though our wedding wasn't important enough. Wish we had just booked it now, it would have reduced the cost an insane amount probably.

We thought about having a sunday or a friday wedding but for us the problem is that many of our guests will have to get on a plane from Jersey or Scotland to attend our wedding so really we had no option but to book it when it would have least impact on their holiday entitlements. As 40% of our guests are RAF, we know the majority of them would be unlikely to be working a weekend but would almost certainly be working mid week.

We're getting married on a Friday. It's probably worked out about £500 cheaper. We're only having 50 to the daytime and while guests have had to take a day off, we did give people 12 months notice.

Nobody has declined and for those wondering about child free weddings, the top tip is book a weekday! We invited 7 children and not one of them are taking the day off school but the parents are all still attending...

We're getting married on a Friday because it was so much cheaper! Also getting married in March rather than April also made a big difference! We gave our guets a years notice so it wasn't 'sprung' on them. Some even knew longer than that as we've had it booked since the end of July last year. x

We're getting married on a Friday. If it's good enough for Kate and Wills.............

Ours is also a fri wedding- saves a few £££ and plus i get an extra day to get over the wedding hangover lol! invites have just gone out and i have 2 who works in a school so i duno if they will be lucky enough to bag the day off

Well as my nan would say ... it goes

Monday for wealth
Tuesday for health
Wednesday the best day of all
Thursday for losses
Friday for crosses
Saturday for no luck at all

.... We're getting married on a Sunday in January (hmmm no mention above wonder what that means (!!!!) ... there is no way we could have afforded our venue on a Saturday in summer so we compromised. As much as we want all our friends and family to share our day with us - as long as Mr Blossom and I can book the Monday off work thats all that matters

We're getting married on a Thursday too, purely down to cost. It's making our venue so much cheaper, and they're being more flexible with food options etc than they would be on a Saturday. We're also getting discounts from other suppliers, and I haven't come across any yet that I wanted who were already booked!

We have just sent out save the date fridge magnets (for our wedding next April) so hopefully that's enough notice for people! I just think if people want to be there, they will be. And if they don't want to use a couple of days holiday for us, they don't deserve to share our day with us!

I think it completely depends on what guests do. Teachers are the obvious ones who regardless of the paid/unpaid situation may not be allowed to have the day off for anything other than family emergencies - so a friend's wedding doesn't count - no issue if none of the close friends are teachers... It also depends on whether your guests make up a large proportion of one particular place of work and if said place of work is in a position to shut down mid week or has minimum staffing requirements - if you have 5 people you want to invite from one place, and there is a maximum of 2 people allowed off at one time, then 3 people are going to be disappointed

We couldn't have had a weekday due to OH wanting to invite most of his work and there is no way they could close down for the day mid week. Even at the weekend 2 people will have to be on call, but they will hopefully be able to drop in between calls if they're lucky as our venue is just about within the practice area.