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Its not rude at all. we are asking for money towards our honeymoon if anyone wants to give us something as we already live together we dont want another toaster or salt shaker.

the last 3 weddings ive been to the couple have asked for money.

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I don't think it's rude but you do need to be careful how you do it. We've chosen to not say anything at all and when people ask us or ask our parents, we've tried to tactfully say that we have everything we need (so not actually ask for money directly!) - thankfully we've not been asked that too much!

I did see some poems that people put in invites - here's a short and sweet one:

"If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way."

Please don’t use a poem! They are just awful.

Sorry poems just make me cringe.

Never.

We didn't ask for anything whatsoever. A few people approached us, asking for our preferences. It was a bit embarrassing and I struggled with how to reply but, in the end, I simply stated that we would prefer them to spend their money on sharing our day with us (or better, on their children!). My Mum told me that more people had asked her about our preferences and she told them all "cash".

We received mostly cash and a smattering of well-thought out, sometimes handmade, gifts. Nobody buys toasters anymore.

The Greeks and Turkish have always had money. Its the best custom I think. I have asked for money and already the cahs is coming in and we aren't married until 11th May!