gift list question...

We've told people we would prefer a donation (no matter how big or small) towards our honeymoon. We are in the same situation as yourself - lived together a number of years and need nothing for our house. However, OHs grandma is the only person that objects and wants to buy us a gift, so we have something to keep. We are now having to rack our brains to think of something useful she can buy us. But other people are still making donations too ?

Hey date twin!!

Im not sure about having both...perhaps the people who do want to buy a gift instead can say, contact your parents and you can give them a list fo items?

I thought about this as we have also lived together for 6 years so have everything we would need.

We would like to give people the option of either contributing towards the honeymoon or contributing towards a peice of art we have chosen.

That way, if some people dont like the idea of giving us cash towards a holiday, they will be able to give us cash to a peice of physical art that will hang on our wall for the rest of our lives.

I'm off to a wedding soon and in with the invites was an option to put money towards their honeymoon or a gift list with John Lewis and the choice is down to the guest and I never once thought it wasn't a good idea!!

Umm thanks everyone, gives me something to think about...we do have a rhyme (sp) printed, i know i know some ppl dont like them but we've adapted it slightly and i quite like it however im not sure how i would also say about an optional gift lift...would prob just have to put at the bottom

**if you would prefer to buy us a gift rather than contribute towards our honeymoon we have a small giftlist set up - please visit blah blah blah**

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Our main request was either cash or Argos vouchers, towards our new home (on the basis that some of the things we need such as a new washing machine are too expensive for one person to buy but 10 people giving £20 makes it quite affordable).

One or two people have expressed a preference to give an actual present, rather than follow the information provided in the invitation pack, so we have given them a suggestion of a thing (such as "we need baking stuff, you know, wire trays, cake tins, muffin tray, that sort of thing") rather than being too specific, so they can spend as much or as little as they feel able to around the suggestion.

"Money poems" are generally, however, not liked around here, and there are often vocal opinions against including any sort of gift list in evening only invitations. Personally, the fact that anyone is invited to the wedding means they are special to us, and I am not differentiating between wedding breakfast and evening guests as everyone is invited to the ceremony too (the most important part of the day IMO) and, apart from one couple as he works night shifts, everyone is coming to the ceremony, regardless of wb only or evening invitation.

We're not actually putting any request in our evening invites, this is just for day guests..I am still unsure what to do though!

I am slowly going off the money poem however I'm not sure how else to put it...we don't need much, would just like some new pans and cooking bits so the list wouldn't be very big, other than that we could do really with help towards our honeymoon...bit cheeky maybe?!

arrghh it's a hard one!

We asked for John Lewis vouchers or Good Gifts (like Oxfam Unwrapped type things), as we too have lived together (in rented) but wanted to be able to buy furnishings for the first house that we buy together as & when we get to the stage where we are able to!

Some people bought us gifts anyway, which was fine too, as that was their preference. They didn't ask us in most cases what we would like but they all chose very lovely gifts. ?

omg, are you me????!?!

only difference it is my g'ma insisting she buy us something, not OH's. We've already thought of something 'small' (£50), but she wants to spend another £200! I'd rather not think of something to let her save her money, or have her donate either all or some to the honeymoon, but no - it has to be something 'sentimental'

enforced sentimental is not sentimental...my honeymoon will be *shrugs*