I've been married for nearly 2 years now and haven't been on here for a while but another (non-wedding) forum I'm on has a thread running which has made me wonder and I thought it might make an interesting discussion.
Do you have an expectation on what gifts your guests will give you? Are you planning your wedding or budgeting on the understanding that you will receive, for example, a certain amount of cash overall to offset the costs? and...this is where the other discussion comes in.... if you received less than expected from a guest would you contact them retrospectively asking for more money?
I was an older bride and I know that the rules have changed regarding cash gifts etc, but I cannot imagine asking people for a gift (even if it was expected as a guest at a wedding) or complaining about something I'd received as a present. Am I out of touch: is it ever OK to contact a guest asking them for more after the event?