Giving me away...

I'm not in a similar situation but I've seen other posts on this kind of topic. Personally I'd choose the stepdad from what you've said. It sounds like he's really been the one who has been a real dad to you. But if you don't want to upset either your biological dad or your stepdad would you not have them both give you away together? If you think that would be strange could you not start the walk down the aisle with one of them then half way down be passed to the other? This is just two solutions I thought of and you might not like either but it might hopefully be a start on giving you some sort of idea of what you could do to resolve the issue. As I've said above though I'd just go with the stepdad as it sounds like he's really been the one who has been the father to you. In the end no matter what anyone else says though you have to follow your own heart. Do that and it can never be a wrong decision!

I can understand this, I've had no contact with my father since I was about 10 but Mum never remarried or met anyone else. But I can imagine the situation. I've seen weddings where the bride has asked both Step Dad and Dad and they have all walked up the aisle together. Not sure if that would work.

If it was me I would chose your Step Dad, personally Mum is giving me away (or staking her claim on a Son in Law

Hmm a very tricky situation. My instinct is to tell you to ask whoever you actually want to walk you down the aisle and give you away.

There are a couple of options you could ask them both to walk you down the aisle, or you could ask one of them to walk halfway and then swap halfway down. xx

Hope you can find a resolution, what a tricky situation to be in. I was going to say what others had, there's been some people on here in the past who's had a shared walk down the aisle, so dad does first half & step dad the other, although I guess it depends on the individual as to how they'll react to that suggestion.

If I were in your situation, I'd WANT to go with my heart & ask my stepdad, but I understand that puts you in a difficult predicament seeing as it sounds like your dad has already assumed he'll be doing it.

Good luck xx

What a dilemma ... Do whatever makes you happy. If it were me, i'd probably ask them both and have one either side of me as we walk down the aisle. Good luck with you decision x

I agree with the other posters.

1. Ask stepfather. 2. Use them both in some way.

The third alternative maybe is ask dad to give you away. It's a walk when all is said and done. And ask stepfather to make the father of the bride speach. Based on you have been with him for longer with him in a father role. Also that you feel your dad doesn't know you.

My daughter always feels like you. She hardly sees her biological father and only sees him once a year. She always says she doesn't want to uset him. Hehas had no more contact since her son was born and sadly her son refered to him always as 'that man' or 'mums dad's. She recently had another child and advised him a week ago her daughter was born but in special care. In a week no card, no phone call since, no messages to see if they are ok. Nothing. It's hurt her massively and i think this has now shown her that biology / blood is less important than feelings etc. Sorry to pull you away a bit from your post and I'm sure whatever you decide your stepfather will understand even if he is hurt. Do whatever feels right to you regardless of how someone else may feel. X

Give or take a few details this is pretty much my exact situation. I've chosen my step dad to walk me down the aisle because ultimately he means more to me and has done more for me in my life than my dad and when i. I'm freaking out before we go in he'll be cracking terrible jokes to calm me down . My dad will be giving a speech because my step dad wouldn't want to and my dad is a good public speaker.

It's your wedding and honestly don't do something just because you have to.

Sounds like a great compromise Slink xx

I am in a similar position to you. My biological dad left when I was 5 and I haven't really been close to him since I was a teenager, he doesn't make much effort and like you, I feel there's a lot about me that he doesn't really 'know'. So that's why my stepdad will walk me down the aisle as he has been much more helpful over the years and would never see me go without and always helps me out with anything. Also he refers to me as his daughter which means a lot and I know how happy it makes both him and my mum that I asked him to walk me down the aisle x