Theres no need to reply - but i feel if i write it all down i will feel better - or at least i hope to.
I have been feeling so depressed just lately, i am really trying to feel positive and put a smile on my face but its false and inside i am just screaming!!
My OH is upsetting me as in his eyes nothing is urgent, everything can wait except for his stag do arrangements with are top priority apparently! Plus he is on nights so he is tired and grumpy. I dont want to upset him so am trying not to complain as i know how hard he works for us both and he deserves to be excited about his stag do but just wish he could show as much enthusiasm bout the rest of it too.
He has also kept the suit he is wearing a surprise - (which is fine) however he brought my sons suit too, and has told me its different to his own - but is keeping that a secret too? Why if its different to his own?? And my son is giving me away so i would like to see what he is wearing? Im his mother of course i want to see it? Men huh.
My parents are upsetting me - as they werent even coming to the wedding, which i was okay with and had got my head round - then few weeks ago mom was coming - then few days later dad was too (really chuffed) - then they werent - then she was and he wasn't - and now he may be - ????? I am so confused, of couse i'd like them there but was okay with the fact that they werent. Now i dont know what to do - book them a place, make place names, menus and order of service for them or not?? The wedding is exactly 8 weeks today and the venue will be asking me soon for my final figures.
There are four others in addition to my parents who havent given me a definate reply for the wedding - so thats is 6 in total that i dont know if they are coming or not? OH says its not a prob!! When i ask them they say 'oh not sure yet it depends on... work/money/other I will let you know!' ......
I also still have loads to do in the way of wedding jobs, i am doing 'almost' everything myself as a DIY bride as we are on such a strict budget - only splashed out on a few things - yet no one has offered to help. They are more than aware of what i am doing staying up late making and preparing stuff...but not one person has offered to come lend a hand or even just come and keep me company one evening while im working on it.
My chief bridesmaid cant organise my hen do - and when i had a go at organising it and sent invites out she texted me to say she couldnt come?????????? Also no one seems bothered about coming to it so only have a few coming now and just feels like i am wasting my time. Wish i hadnt even bothered organising one. Especially when my OH keeps banging on about his stag do at the moment like how many he has got going and how great its going to be.
My Ex is doing his upmost to sabotage my plans - he is always coming up with some other way at trying to get at me - You wouldnt believe the lenghts he has sunk to. All in an aim to upset me. Im now scared everytime the door knocks or the phone rings, thinking 'oh god what now - whats next'
Any time i try to tell someone how i feel about it they say 'dont let him upset you, your letting him win if you do' but one of the things he is doing is taking me to court about my daughter! How can i not get upset about this with only 8 weeks to the wedding i could end up battling a court case anytime now. Over him taking my daughter abroad for the summer - if i lose i wont have my little girl at my wedding. I allow him contact every week but he is requesting even more contact which means losing a lot of time with her? Yet her school have said how concerned about her well being they are when she is with him?
I just feel like jacking it all in and saying im not going thru with it!
Then curling up on my bed and crying!!