Gosh after reading the 1yr from now post looks like everyone will be upduffed!!

Some of us are getting on a bit! So can't leave it too long!

Love from Aged Ali xxx

Funny I was thinking the same thing and was going to start a similar thread.

Is there anyone on here who is NOT planning on a baby straight after the wedding? I know I'm not! ?

I won't be - I've already done my bit for the human race by producing a boy and a girl!! By this time next year my daughter will be 14 and my son nearly 6.

Also my OH has his GP appointment next week for the snip.

So although I'm not that old I know that's my lot.

Our baby planning is very much "maybe". We always said we'd only have one together to as we both have children from previous relationships. In fact my eldest will be making me a grandmother very soon after we get back from honeymoon!!

I would love to have a baby, have done for the past two years. H2B wants to get married first. So married first then (hopefully!) baby.

The thing with us is that I'm 35 and Iain will be 42 by the time we get married. Neither of us has any children - and assuming that we're financially secure, we'd like to have one at least. Bearing in mind that as far as I'm aware very few people fall pregnant immediately, we think that we need to get a move on! Iain's already saying he's going to be the oldest dad in the playground!

So that's why we're going to start trying as soon as we can. Iain was wondering about before the wedding, but I think we've got enough on our plates.

I'm sure that not everyone is going to be getting pregnant immediately! Just us oldies!

Ali x

We hope to have at least 1, h2b will be 40 and me 36, so age and time and all that! But 1st need to get some weight of. I would be happy with 1 if we can, but whilst we wait will enjoy the practice ?

Hell no! I have done my bit too. My daughter has just turned 9 and my my son has just turned 4.

An afternoon with my son is enough to put anyone off ( i love him really) my son is starting school in September and cant wait ?. I had my daughter when i was 21 and my son when i was 26 so im looking forward to some me time, although i have no idea what i will do with it!

I'm not planning on having a baby, although OH would love another one. I've got enough stress with the one i already have, without adding to it.

Nope, we'll be leaving it a year ish after the wedding "according to plan..."

Bet hey, who knows what will happen between now and two years in the future!

I'm just really broody, i've wanted a baby for around a year now! I started taking my folic acid 2 weeks ago ?

We will be trying straight away, may even come off pill a month or 2 before the wedding.

Oooh - Zippy! Is that wise? I break out in zits when I'm not on the pill! (Although I do lose weight so it's swings and roundabouts!)

ME ME ME ME! I can't actually shout that loud enough.

Oh gosh, look at all you broody brides!!

I agree no more babies for us either, I have 4 from my previous marriage and I'm definately not going down that road again lol

I didn't think that we would try soon after the wedding and we both decided ages ago we'd wait a couple of years at least - and were actually expecting it to take quite a while too as I have endometriosis.

Well here I am 2 weeks after our 1st wedding anniversairy....7 months pregnant!!! Something just "clicked" a few months after the wedding and we decided to go for it (so to speak).

So those that are saying not yet / no way........ we'll see ? x

we are the opposite. we said we would start trying after the wedding, and here we are, nearly a year on, and we havent ? this year has gone so fast.

Not for me! Too many things I want to do before having children - and even after that I am undecided. I quite like my life as it is! OH feels the same - he generally likes children more than I do (has 2 already), but is quite enjoying the (little bit!) of childfree time we get at the moment.

We have talked about it as a posibility for the future. We initially said not in the first 5 years of marriage - but as he is 36 now, I don't think he wants to be becoming a father again much over 40 - so it will be around then, if at all.

? I know what you mean. 2 people actually said when we got engaged that they thought we would only get married 'to have children'.... hmmmm. OH kindly pointed out "They are TWO SEPARATE events"...

Someone asked me the other day will we have kids soon after the wedding (not at rude as its sounds as they are good mates) but I hardly let him finish before I sreamed "good god no!"

I agree with Lisaloulou's point though - its all about the wedding for now, would imagine we could feel very differently 6 months down the line...

I've worked out that the best time for me to get pregnant would be Sept, that way I can have the summer off work! Hmm....maybe I'm going about this the wrong way!

Seriously though, We're half planning to start trying end of next year, need a year without hassle first! Xx

We definitely won't be trying for a looonnng time (see the use of bold and underline there?! cannot emphasise it enough! ?) but then we are a young couple to be getting married anyway (I will be 23, OH will be 25) so we just want to enjoy each other and try to progress in our careers for the next few years, sell our flat and buy a house, go on some nice expensive holidays, and then maybe we might consider it but probably not till I'm at least 28, most likely 30.

Marriage doesn't scare me because I know I'd be with OH anyway and we're completely committed to each other now, have a mortgage together anyway etc and all that stuff, so it's just a case of making it official in front of everyone we love. Nothing fundamental will change in our relationship after we're married. But kids - that's another matter entirely. When you choose to have kids, the two of you are no longer number 1if that makes sense, and I know that's not something either of us are ready for at the moment! We're too selfish, we like our social lives too much and being generally quite carefree. I love being able to just spontaneously go out after work if I want to, or stay out till 4am on a Saturday if I want, etc Those kind of things are hard to do with a baby in the equation! But I know children are definitely something we both want in the future. Future is just the operative word, that's all!

I thought of that, maybe having a little announcement on the day? But then I thought about it a bit more, and there's no way I'm walking up/down that aisle without at least 1 glass of something alcoholic in me!!!

I'm in the got upduffed on my wedding night gang, and I have to say I adore the bones off of my son but if I could have done one thing differently it would have been to wait a little while. We're coming up to our 2nd wedding anniversary and I still feel that we've never had that time as "newlyweds", and yes - it is different from just living together. There was no time to relax, it felt like we'd just stepped off of the wedding rollercoaster and onto the next huge ride!

Also, I would suggest that if you're both not in a secure job I wouldn't (if I had my time again) have a baby in a period of recession. My H lost his job in December and hasn't found another yet, I'm working 3 jobs to try and make ends meet, it has been seriously tough.

I don't want to put anyone off, believe me - being a mum is the best thing I've ever done, but my advice would be...don't rush to get on that bus! ?

We already have a 2 year old & were hoping to have another before the wedding but as it hasn't happened yet & I'm on the verge of being made redundant we are going to wait until after the wedding, which make s me a bit sad ☹️

We'll be 35 and 37 when we get hitched so we want to try within the year......dont fancy being old parents. However, we are likely to get our two done in a one-goer as we are both from twin parents.......

eeeeeeeek!

To reassure you a bit Ali - I am 34, 35 in 2 months time. I came off the pill at the end of December and was upduffed one month later! Apparently you are super fertile straight after coming off the pill (or my H has super sperm - I think he likes to think it's that!)

I'll keep my eye out for you on BT, although I'm due at the beginning of November, so I might be a bit busy!

Ohhh did i know u were preggers?? I cant remember so um.... congrats lolol wooo!

That's good to know, Spam! I'm sure Iain will be pleased! Although it makes me even more determined not to come off the pill until after the wedding! I want to drink champagne on our wedding day!

We won't be trying straight away. We want to spend some time as newlyweds first of all and in the 9 years we have been together, have always been saving up for stuff - eg - getting out of debt as both students, saving up to buy a house and now the wedding. So once the wedding is over, we want some time to just do what we want to do. Go on holidays etc. As someone else mentioned, we also really enjoy our social lives and at the moment, I'm not ready to give that up.

We definitely want children but not for another 3 years or so.

Cheers Nona - I'm 14 weeks upduffed!

Ali - quite right too, after all you're paying for the booze, you would want to enjoy it too. Plus, if you're going on honeymoon straight after, you can control your periods with the pill better ;-)

Oh no, this thread has made me even broodier ?

Just asked H2B if he would be happy with me coming off the pill now, and he said yes!

I'm still going to wait till after the wedding though, i want to drink champagne until the wee hours of the morning at our reception!