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Luthien
Beginner June 2007

Great advice from my Grandmother

Luthien, 12 August, 2009 at 20:07 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 16

I've been diagnosed with depression, this has been really difficult for me to admit and accept. This evening I told some of my family, I thought it might explain my lack of contact etc of late. My Grandmother has advised me 1) to get a hobby ?, 2) to have a good think and work out what is causing the depression as, she once had depression and she thought long and hard about what was causing it and discovered that it was that she read the Daily Mirror (I know, who wouldn't be depressed) every day. She stopped that and was fine ? and 3) to lighten up a bit ?

I love my Grandmother very much, but honestly!

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Latest activity by Toriajayne, 13 August, 2009 at 23:06
  • Orly Bird
    Beginner April 2007
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    Grandmas are great, aren't they ?

    Sorry to hear that you're not yourself. The idea of getting out and about isn't a bad one, though. ?

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  • CelticAngel
    Beginner May 2007
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    Aww bless her.?

    You have to laugh or you would cry.lol

    Hope she made you smile though?

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  • Luthien
    Beginner June 2007
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    She is great, and she did make me laugh, albeit silently as she would get cross if she thought I was laughing at her. Seriously, what is she on? ?

    Hitched is so slow tonight - it took me forever to get back on and post.

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  • HaloHoney
    Beginner July 2007
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    Loof - the light at the end of the tunnel is clearly on - you laughed rather than curling up in a corner and crying. ?

    Sorry to hear you're under a bit of a cloud. Hope things start to improve soon.?

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  • Luthien
    Beginner June 2007
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    Thank you. It's odd, I seem to be having a good week. I think last week I would have cried.

    I start counselling next week, so hopefully that will help.

    I can't help but feel I have failed in some way. I know that's ridiculous. The Dr was fantastic though and hopefully I can noe get to the bottom of this.

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  • HeidiHole
    Beginner October 2003
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    Oh lovely, I had no idea! You know where I've been with it and am happy to be an ear for you if you need it, you've done amazingly well being brave enough to get help. Will be thinking of you, lovely ?

    Your Grandmother sounds fab ?

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  • Maxi
    Beginner February 2008
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    Waaahhh, at Daily Mirror ?

    Hope the diagnosis and your acceptance of the illness is the start of your health improving ?

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  • flissy666
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    I think your Gran is my mum ?

    So sorry to hear you've been having a hard time of it. It sucks big ones. Your doc sounds great, and I'm sure with such good support, you'll get through it.

    In the meantime, if you *do* want a hobby, I can always teach you to knit ?

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  • Luthien
    Beginner June 2007
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    Thanks.

    ? Holio. The Dr made it very easy for me. Hopefully getting help with help my stomach too.

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  • Luthien
    Beginner June 2007
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    Wahahaha! My Grandmother would love that. I can do plain stitch, but casting on and off is an issue. Oh and wool goes through me.

    Maybe cross stitch would be better?

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  • hazel
    VIP July 2007
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    Ridiculous maybe but surprisingly common - I had/have very similar feelings. Rache once linked to this book which "In contrast to many books on depression, this text takes the view that those most susceptible to depression are people with strong personalities. Being naturally conscientious and reliable, they tend to carry on under great stress, where weaker people would simply give up. In the end the burden becomes too much and they succumb to depression rather like a rubber band which will snap if stretched too far." I think there's a lot in that for me.

    Really glad you've been able to talk to the doc and have therapy lined up - hope you start to find a way through the gloom soon. You're a long way down the track if you've got to the stage of taking action ?

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  • HeidiHole
    Beginner October 2003
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    I'm so glad your Dr is being helpful, it makes such a difference. I'll keep everything crossed that your stomach problems get sorted out too, I know it's been an issue for a long time.

    Will be scooting very shortly, but will have my phone with me if you need me at all. Loof you, dude ?

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  • Flaming Nora
    Beginner May 2003
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    Good on you for speaking to your Dr and starting the process of getting well again ? I wish I had a lovely (if slightly dotty) grandma like yours. She sounds a real gem. They should prescribe dotty grandmas ?

    hazel, that book sounds great.......wise words indeed.

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  • Luthien
    Beginner June 2007
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    Thanks Hazel - that makes a lot of sense to me. I think I'll get the book. I do like to think I cope in the toughest of situations and that I am a rock for those close to me or, with respect to work, that I can take on huge amounts of work and still deliver work that's well done and thorough. The only thing is, it takes a terrible toll as I can't let any of it go. I worry about everyone and everything, all the time. But in the last few weeks, I've just found myself less and less able to cope. Instead of just feeling stress, I feel completely lost. I feel numb - but I can cry uncontrollably at the drop of a hat. It's like a deep sadness. I get rages too. I sound like a complete basket case ?

    It's taken me a long time to get help, there have been peaks and troughs, this has been festering for around 5 years now I think. This is the lowest I have been. I've tried to get help before, but everytime I have gone to the Drs I have failed to get it out. It's just so hard for me to admit to needing help. This time I started waffling about stress, then about everyone saying I seem just so terribly sad. I then got wobbly lip. The Dr took it from there and it came out through a series of teary nods and the Dr changing the subject and then bringing it back to the depression. It felt manageable.

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  • Luthien
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    Have a fab. holiday Holio x

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    Sorry to hear you've been diagnosed with depression. but at least your making a step in the right direction. Your grandma sound like she was just trying to help and be positive and at least she made you laugh eh! she certainly made me laugh. My grandma doesn't 'believe' in depression, she just thinks its people being pathetic and said to my poor cousin that she should just pull herself together and get over it.

    Hope you're feeling better soon ? if you want one x

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    Are we related? She sounds like my nana who told me when I was diagnosed with depression that it was down to my diet and that I should lose weight *rolls eyes* She meant well though I'm told!

    You sound like you've taken the first step, and as someone else said, at least she made you laugh rather than cry. I'm also able to teach you to knit (which is actually down to me having spent every weekend with my nan as a kid) or cross stitch if you need a hobby ?

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