Grrr, my effing mother....

Try not to let it get to you. I can imagine how important it is to you but your mum may not realise how it has affected you and the pressures on time. Is it worth trying to explain to her how you feel? If you can't rearrange, don't let it spoil your time at the venue and enjoy showing the other people you are taking. Afterall, they will still be excited with you and it will be her that misses out, not you.

As for things my mum has done that have wound me up, well everytime we see or speak to her she brings up the fact that we're not inviting certain relatives (who I have no contact with) and that she doesn't feel like her side of the family will be represented as she will only have 30 there (my dad will have none and my OHs family is less than 10!). Bear in mind that we didn't speak for a few weeks as she wanted me to scrap friends who are very close to me from the guest list in order to accomdate relatives who I wouldn't recognise. That and we were told that it wasn't our wedding, but actually a family celebration.

Hello! You are not alone, my mum is so annoying, she brought my little sister in2 my salon for a haircut 2day and half way through I threw the scissors down and told her to get out! We are not close and she really irritates me but is demanding that she comes to my hotel room on the morning of the wedding as its a mothers perogative, emmmmmmm maybe if your close but we are not and she will annoy the life out of me pretending to cry and all that s**t. I do not need her stressing me out! Then she asked me what im doing 2 my sister (FG) who is 6 hair? I proceed to say why would I be doing her hair on my wedding day and she says 'well whos going 2 do it, coz laurens not doing her hair' (lauren is our other sis also a hairdresser)....I was speechless!! Then goes onto what photos she wants taken by the TOG, I say Ive already given him my priority shots and those she said arent included and that and she just says well those are a must" aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah she drives me crazy!! may I add I am paying for all my wedding myself so parents have no input anyway. RANT OVER LOL.

Oh dear hope you ca go Thursday!!!

On the spectacular mother moments my dearest mother spent the 3 months in between me getting engaged and us going dress shopping gathering pictures of everyone she knew who had got married recenty or their daughter's wedding dresses and bringing them with us to the shop and advising the shop assistant that I wouldn't want to look at any of these as I wanted an origional dress-TBH it was more funny than anything- the poor shop assistant didn't know what to say!! I did have a word with her and she was fine about it- her heart was in the right place.

The MIL2B also has an obsession with having a chicken dish on the menu- we went with one in the end (there are two other choices for guests and I'm hoping no-one chooses the chicken to prove a point). At first me and OH wanted to keep clear of the traditional wedding food but it was getting to the point where OH would recieve daily txts asking if we had chosen the menu and giving her opinion as to why we needed a chicken dish- drove me mad!!!

I now also have 10 extra evening guests from MIL2B's 'close' family- me and OH have been together 6 years and I have never even heard of them!! the joys of wedding planning- gretna green sounds very good at the moment!!!

I think you're justified in thinking what you did, but she may just have put her foot in it without realising.

No arguments with my mum as yet, but we may yet get there - she and my dad split up about 3/4 years ago and have both since found new partners (tbf, my dad found his b4 they split up..!), and so my mum is now constantly acting surprised when i mention my dad's gf coming to the wedding, asking if it would be her or some 'other' person, and then doing the same a week later like nothing had ever been mentioned. All the while she's acting like her bf is a massive part of the family and of course he's going to be there, why wouldn't he be??? I don't argue with that, just the fact she thinks its not the same for my dad the other way around...aagh!

I can really sympathise. My wedding dress was delivered to my parents' house and they didn't even call me to tell me it had arrived until the day after as they had been too busy building a bench for their garden the day before! Then when I went to try it on my mum's comment was "well I don't think that looks too bad". I honestly could have cried!

My mum has been endlessly complaining about the costs to attend my wedding... hotel (which is only £19 may i add!), outfit, travel, and also her precious time. then i found out this week shes booked a holiday to greece 2 weeks before our wedding to, i quote, 'top up her tan' f you mother