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ashmegdj
Beginner August 2009

Grrr....My Mother!!!

ashmegdj, 19 February, 2009 at 08:44 Posted on Planning 0 3

So I spent the day with my sister yesterday and she informs me that my Mother is upset and hurt that I haven't invited her on my hen do!!

Which is understandable except that we had always said we would do something different - just me, my daughter, my sister, my mum and my grandma. Something suited to everyones ages, etc because my daughter wants to join in, being nearly 13, but clearly she can't come along on a p!ss up and that wouldn't be my grandma's thing at all.

The problem is my Mum has a drink problem, which she has had for years, and I just know she would ruin my hen do. It's bad enough that I have spent the last 18 months of planning our wedding worrying that she is going to make a twit of herself, and me, at the wedding let alone the hen night too.

So I had planned on maybe a spa day or a theatre show that we could all do and enjoy. She's just made me so angry that she's gone moaning to my sister about it because she can't remember having the conversation with me.

So if anybody has any ideas that would be great.

Sorry for the rant ?

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Latest activity by henheaven.com, 19 February, 2009 at 09:54
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    Beginner July 2009
    Sh7583 ·
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    No ideas really just wanted to say i understand how you feel. I had my first wedding related nightmare last night in which my mum got drunk( as usual) and fell out with my dad causing a massive row. This is something that definatley could happen as she tends to do this at most family occasions.

    I dont know the answer but think you are right to have to hen nights. On your piss up one, you would not be able to relax and enjoy yourself if you were constantly worrying what your mum was doing.

    Good Luck x

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  • bookgirl
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    I think you should call your mum and start talking about the extra hen do, does she think this is a good idea, does she think spa or theatre? I wouldn't bring up the "actual" hen do - I'd start by getting her more involved in this one. FWIW it sounds like you are doing the right thing.

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
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    Morning!

    i totally agree with bookgirl, milk the special hen night more.........even if she asks about the night out with the girls just remind her that the other hen night means more to you coz its with you and grandma and daughter..........

    i'll be taking my mum out for a meal if she wants to go on one, i'll be surprised if she wants to!

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    I agree, I think the emphasis here is to get excited about the seperate hen do, and ask for your mother's input, don't give her the choice to come to the other one, but ask which choice of show she would like to see etc

    sounds ilek you are being very sensible and I completely understand.

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