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superlauren321, 9 August, 2011 at 19:43 Posted on Planning 0 5

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Evening all

well so far wedding planning has been relatively painless, nothing too drastic that can't be handled.

then tonight, i recieve a text from a close friend, who i dont see very often, but is close all the same, saying 'i dont quite know how to say this but if its ok with you i am going to just come to the night do rather than the wedding, its not that i dont want to be there but i dont feel comfortable being there when i barely know anyone'.

im kind of torn in two about this...

on the one hand, i dont want her to come if she's going to be uncomfortable. i want the people who attend the wedding to remember it for being a nice day, not an uncomfortable one. on the other hand, she is a very close friend, who knows 85% of the people there (some of them very well) and i feel a little hurt that she's not going to make the effort.

ultimately, i know that im not the kind of person that would say anything to her, and i know how hard it must've been to send that message, but i cant help but feel a little sad.

no need to reply, i just needed to write it down and share!!

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Latest activity by green-claws-entertainment, 9 August, 2011 at 22:27

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DaffyB · 9 August, 2011 at 20:00
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That does seem a bit strange. Is it because she can't bring a plus one? Would it be possible to say she can bring someone else with her so that she doesn't feel on her own?
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ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown · 9 August, 2011 at 20:07
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Hmmm, charitably, I'd say she's being honest. Uncharitably, I'd say this is a rather ungracious response from her that is angling for a plus-one.
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PompeyEm · 9 August, 2011 at 20:50
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Does she know explicitly who else has been invited? Could you try the breezy response of "Don't be daft! You'll know x and y and z and..." and then refer to the table plan (if you're having one) and say "and I was planning to sit you with..."

And then see what she says?
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irrelephant · 9 August, 2011 at 20:53
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I agree with pompeyem, don't worry about saying something to her, say she'll know x,y,z etc.
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green-claws-entertainment · 9 August, 2011 at 22:27
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I had to go to my fiances friends wedding last year where i knew no one except my fiance. I had never met the bride or groom before as it was my fiances college friend who was getting married.

But the joy of weddings it gives people a chance to chat to complete strangers with an obvious connection ... tha happy couple.

I was actually sat on a table away from my fiance as she was part of the Bridal Party. So i was sat solo on a table of about 9 other people who i had never met before. By the end of a tipsy night there was me and 3 of the guys from our table all giving bear hugs on the dance floor and singing the beatles yellow submarine.

What im trying to say is that not knowing anyone does not give a good enough reason (in my opinion) to attend someones wedding. Its an opportunity to meet people who wish to share in the happiness of your wedding day.
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