Guest advice - what a cheek!

Not being a bridezilla at all - simply they can't come for all the reasons you state. A good blag would be you're so close to your wedding date you've had to contractually confirm numbers already thereby avoiding all politics. Perhaps you could offer to meet your Dad and step mother et al for lunch or something a couple of days afterwards if you're not going straight off on honeymoon. Unless your Dad is putting up the cost of the wedding then that could be tricky...

Nope, not bridezilla.

Extend an evening invite if you can afford it and want to. Not a chance I'd invite them to the full day.

Exactly this. I think it is very rude they have asked/assumed.

Do you know what, I actually glanced at your post count because for a second I thought that was so unbelievable you must be a troll!! That is absolutely unbelievable!!! To be honest though I'm actually most surprised at your dad. He must know how expensive weddings are and all the stress and planning involved so why is he asking you to invite total strangers?? It's really really odd!

Can I ask why werent yourself & your sister invited to meet the wifes family when they were here, yet other family members were? This is the question I'd be asking your dad. And why now does he think you like to invite them to your wedding???

Not a bridezilla at all. If you had the extra to pay for more guests, I'd invite more close friends or family, not strangers that you are unlikely to see again.

Lol vintage84 nope not a troll! almost wish it was really, it's so far fetched!

I don't know why we weren't invited, our family is particularly disjointed but we all get on. I know they're stay was pretty busy so probably struggled for time but I did find it a bit odd/ was offended.

the whole thing is just ludicrous, my Dad is clearly on another planet. He has not contributed to the wedding so thankfully I don't feel obliged. But he is apparently clueless to the cost that is involved.

Plus if we were to invite extra people I have some close friends I would rather were there!

Your day, your way! if you cant afford it they cant come simple unless daddy want to contribute but even then if you don't want them there don't invite them

Definitely not a bridezilla!! I'd be furious, even if he was paying for it its still a bit of a cheek to say that, as you've not even met them?!

I'd be really annoyed and not invite them, don't invite them to anything if you can't afford to/don't want to. You don't know these people well and you've not met them. If you can/want to invite them at night im sure they would appreciate it but I think i would be tempted not to invite them at all.

Then again I am a stubborn cow!!

S x

I wouldn't even invite them to the evening, your wedding is about spending the day with people who are important to you. And that's so rude of your Dad!

I'd be p!ssed off and certainly wouldn't invite them. Just kindly explain what you have just said to us.

That is awful! Especially as you weren't invited to come and meet them. No way would I be inviting them especially with 5 weeks to go, no way.

I would bear in mind that in their culture it would be unheard of not to invite family in those circumstances and perhaps that would then put your Dad in an embaressing position which is why he probably asked.

Yes their weddings are very different, they last 3 days and everyone is invited, so I see the difference in culture.

I dont think it would have been so bad had it not been my dad asking as he is well aware of what is happening at our wedding, can you imagine how my aunts and uncles (some of which I would really have liked to come to the day) would feel if I let them come all day?!

I am still seething and being a stubborn moo I am going to ring Dad tonight and say they cannot come, give my reasons and suggest they find something to do for that weekend. If he and his wife don't like it they can join them!!!

Arrrrrrgggggghhhhhh!!!!!!

WSS

That's absolutely ridiculous! Why in the world would anyone want a load of STRANGERS watching you say your vows to the man you love?! And paying for them to do so!

Forgetting how crazy that all is, if I was invited to the wedding of a couple that I had never met, I'd feel really uncomfortable! Are they just wanting them to come because they've planned a visit at the time of your wedding and they don't want to have to leave them alone for the day?

I don't mean to insult your father but I think this whole thing is really inconsiderate! With such short notice, you can definitely play the 'final numbers already confirmed' card. Our venue requires this 12 weeks before so just say yours did too if you can't tell him the truth.

DW I think exactly the same as this, not quite sure what goes through his head at times!!

I have tonight rung him and advised that no they cannot come, given my reasons and said that I was actually quite frustrated with the whole thing. I might have mentioned that we clearly weren't important enough when they last visited to be introduced to them and I might have said that we may aswell just start inviting people off the street! ?

I don't think he was too impressed that I have said no but it is tough luck imo!!

Hey - first of all we're date twins! yay! - I think your dad's being outrageous. Invite who you want to spend the day with you! x

Oh, as if?! No it's not bleeding OK!

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Woo date twin!! Hello, how are the plans going? I seem to be writing lots of lists but not getting anywhere with them!!

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Very well said. My sister was disgusted to hear that she would not automatically be getting a "Plus One". I explained that if she is seeing somebody when we do the invitations then yes, they will be invited but that she is not inviting a random person to our wedding. I can't even figure a) why she would expect one and b) who she would bring. The wedding is in Scotland so they are travelling from Ireland and she'll know most people there...

I've only ever brought a Plus One (pre H2B) when I didn't know anybody else attending the wedding.

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