Guest dilemma!!

I'd say in this situation you can indeed tell your brother who he can and cannot invite. This would definitely be an "over my dead body" situation for me.

It's your wedding day so its up to you.

If it was me I'd tell my brother that I didn't want her there just because it will be awkward and its your day for you and your partner. I wouldn't like my partners ex coming and I think he would feel awkward about it.

I'm sorry but I'd just say no - it might be seen as a Bridezilla moment but I wouldn't care! It was bad enough when my Gran gave my OH a full photo album for his birthday and it had a picture of him and his ex in there - gorgeous, blonde hair, nice boobs

I'm sure your brother has other friends he could take - though to be honest does he need a plus one? He is family so it's not like a guest who would barely know anyone. I'd just talk with him, tell him you'd rather he didn't. Maybe he's not really thought of it that way and would be happy to choose differently.

I think you are well within your rights to say no. Your brother is being rather thoughtless by wanting to invite her!

While this is something I would normally agree with, it does not apply if said woman is your fiance's ex! FFS, just tell him no and explain why. He's got to be pretty dense not to realise how awkward it would be. Explain that if he wants her to be his plus 1 she can only come to the evening. Are they actually dating or in a serious relationship? That would be the only case in which it might possibly be worth letting him invite her (if she could potentially be your future sister-in-law).

Agree with everyone above. Be honest with your brother and explain the reasons why - especially as she will be sat on top table!

This! I'd be pretty cheesed off with him for inviting her as well !

OK no my darling in the situation it is absolutely OK to tell your bro who he can and cannot invite. He should know better to be honest but being a man, he has probably not thought this one through!

I would move fast so you get in there before he asks her and the repercussions start to ripple out and more probs are caused!

You are totally entitled to have a quiet chat with your brother, Id be honest and calm and ask if he remembers that she used to go out with MrS, and that although you respect his friendship with her, you would take it as a big favour if he could ask someone else, as you really want him and his +1 on the top table, and it wouldnt feel right to have your hubbys ex on the top table and part of such a small gathering, and could he see past it for this one day?

You know, she may even tell your bro she doesn't want to go! She sounds nice, so she may put him straight on it himself. They are only friends, not partners.

Tell him. I am sure he will understand. I really think its OK to say something here.

The birdie song however, I cannot help you with! xxx

Unless he is in a relationship with her then I don't see the need for a plus one just for the sake of it, I would consider that as an unnecessary expense if it were me. But if you are giving him a plus one, I think it's perfectly OK to explain that you are not comfortable with him bringing your OH's ex.

Thanks for your advice all. My Mum put him down as a +1 on our guest list as she will have my Dad and I will obviously have my will be husband but I do feel as though inviting my fiancé's ex goes against our wishes. I actually asked him for advice when we we thought about inviting her to just he evening do. He told me that he wasn't going to invite her because my H2B was against it. My H2B is not against it, hes against her being invited to the whole day but felt pressured to agree to it. I don't think it was an intended malicious act, I think it was a lack of thought, to be honest. My brother and I have our moments bu I don't think he'd invite an ex with the intention of causing upset.

In relation to the idea of a romantic relationship between them, there isn't one. They are very close and it sometimes seems like there should be, but there isn't. Fortunatele she is apparently on holiday at the moment so I have just over a week to move and tell him it's off. I'm 50/50 how this could go as I could come off as a Bridezilla and sound like I hate the girl, but at the same time I need my new husband o be comfortable. I wouldn't want one of my ex boyfriends at my wedding!

Thanks

MrsStobe13 x