Hello! I'm trying to finalize my guest list for my wedding but I'm having some difficulty. My venue has a maximum capacity of 120, and while that may sound like a lot I have a very big extended family! My partner's family is quite small so he said he'll struggle to think of even 50 people to invite, but even so it'll be quite a squeeze and I'm going to have to leave quite a few people off the guest list who I know would want to come.
My parents are divorced and both remarried so I have step-siblings on both sides. My father was 1 of 5 children and my mother 1 of 10! So don't even get me started on the multitude of aunts, uncles, cousins, second cousins (some second cousins who have kids too)
So the fact is I simply can't invite everyone, as much as I would like to.
I know certain people wouldn't turn up even if I did invite them, but they are the sort of people who would RSVP "yes" and then not turn up (they did this at my sisters wedding) so I am not sending them a "courtesy invite".
I just don't know how to go about this without seeming nasty.
My sister suggested not inviting cousins kids, but I have kids of my own as do my 2 eldest sisters and they will all be there, so I'm worried that will sound really nasty to not invite their kid when I have kids of my own.
Also, there are certain cousins whom I never see, so they are obvious choices to leave off the guest list, however they are close to other cousins who I do see and will be inviting, so again, when invites turn up for one cousin and not the other it will just seem mean :\
any help advice or support would be very much appreciated!