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spenerella
Beginner August 2014

Guest list headaches!

spenerella, 9 April, 2013 at 18:17 Posted on Planning 0 3

Hello,

I'm new to hitched (and forums if truth be told!) I've posted this on the weddings abroad section but I'm sure 'who to invite' is a headache for most of us!

I need some advice on inviting family to our wedding in Santorini next year. Both my parents come from large families so the number of aunts, uncles and cousins I have is ridiculous! We've kinda decided already to not invite any of my dad's famliy (might seem harsh but I don't actually like most of them and HTB hasn't even met them). Which leaves my mum's family. If I invite one Auntie do I need to invite the other 6 aunts and uncles? They are quite close. The budget can just about handle that. But then do I need to invite all their siblings (adults of a similar age to me)? Some of them have children who couldn't be left at home so they'd have to come too. We picked Greece so that we didn't have to invite all and sundry and we are planning a party back home the month after.

How do I navigate this without offending anyone?

What are you doing if you're in a similar situation?

Cheers

K

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Latest activity by DaffodilWaves, 9 April, 2013 at 23:22
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    Beginner December 2014
    AlmostMrsB ·
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    Hi!

    Although Im getting married in this country, I am also havng a similar problem! My parents each have big families, my H2B has a big family im yet to meet who he wants to invite, we never see or hear from them so I dont think we should! After we started looking at the guest list, and how much it costs per person,we put our rational hats on and looked at it this way: would we foot the bill to happily take this person out for dinner and spend time with them? If not, we moved them to the night do list (enjoy catching up at parties!). If you are having a party when you get back, I would just invite immediate family and then make sure you have a kick-ass party! Im sure that your family will understand!

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  • pandorasbox
    Beginner August 2012
    pandorasbox ·
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    Hello and welcome.

    I think your statement above says it all. It's got to be exactly who you want there. Invite immediate family (such as the 1 aunt you like) and very good friends only. You can just tell everyone else there will be a party later.

    OH invited only 1 of his aunties out of 5/6 sisters (including his own mum) because that's who he was close to and pretty much disliked the rest of them.

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  • spenerella
    Beginner August 2014
    spenerella ·
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    Agreed!

    Love the dinner analogy - Everyone who is hopefully coming to Greece with us, I would buy dinner for in a heartbeat!

    Cheers guys x

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    I'm shooting a wedding in Greece in August and her rule was if they hadn't met either her or her Husband then that person didn't come. That meant some of the Aunts and Uncles on both sides didn't get an invite. I would only invite people you are close to and would miss if they weren't there.

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