Guest list help!

If you can afford it, pay for them. If you cant, then don't invite them to the reception. I really wouldn't worry about it. I've been invited to a number of weddings where my hubby couldn't come until the evening. It saved us trying to find a baby sitter for the whole day!

Joanne

This may be obvious but are the 5 of them all friends with each other because if they are I really don't think its a problem to just invite them in the day and their other halves for the evening.

I know I wouldn't have an issue with it and as your friends they should be understanding and want you to have a great day, but if your going to do that I would talk to them all personally to explain it especially if you think some might have an issue.

I think it can be quite common nowadays to not invite plus one's for smaller weddings.

Your friends will have each other for company too and I'm sure they'd understand anyway.

You could always have a chat with them and explain the situation. 60 is a pretty small wedding, I'm sure they will understand. Why don't you say you just can't afford to pay for them and their OHs, you would love them to come to the day and their OHs to join in the evening but if they feel uncomfortable coming on their own you totally understand if they also just want to come together in the evening. As others have said, if they are all friends I'm sure they won't mind (unless it's along way to travel, in which case it's a bit more annoying).

I'm having similar worries. We are getting pretty close to the max no of people we can fit in our venue for a meal. Unfortunately if everyone brought a plus one then there just simply wouldn't be room for everyone!! We are limiting to people whose partners we know quite well. I have quite a few friends where I have never met their boyfriend/girlfriend and I'm just going to explain that there simply wouldn't be anywhere for them to sit during the meal! Hopefully as they are all quite good friends they will understand and I am more than happy for their partners to come in the evening. My fiance recently went to a wedding where I wasn't invited and I certainly wasn't offended as I barely knew them.

Maybe just having a chat to your friends about it before you send out invitations will help and avoid bad feelings.

I think they will be fine with it, it’s what we do in my group of friends. There are 9 girls and we all go to the day and partners are just invited to the evening. Us lot actually prefer it like this it means that we can all sit on one table rather than being split up and also because all our partners don’t know each other that well means us girls get a few hours to ourselves and no need to stick with the OH.

I will be married next year when one of the other girls in the group get married and i won’t have a problem with my OH just coming to the evening, he will probably prefer it anyway.

I'm sure they will be fine with it, if it's one group of friends and none of their partners are invited. For my close friends from school, I am inviting their plus ones in the day, but for other friends e.g. from work or uni, I'm not as like you we have a cap on the number of day guests and I can't justify inviting people I've never met or barely know. Explain it to them, they will be fine about it I'm sure ?

It all depends how close we both are from the person getting married, how far from home it'd be, and how OH would feel by being left out.

If it is someone only I am close with, I wouldn't mind him joining me in the evening, but I would feel like would be unfair on him if I only got to go if he was close to the couple too.

If too far away from home (that he couldn't join me for evening or not cost affective) I would also think twice if I'd make it.

Hope it helps!

Thanks everyone! I feel better now! I'm sure they'll all understand but I was just feeling guilty! If people drop out I can always invite them later on

Thanks again!

btw I'm soooo addicted to this forum :-/