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ExpensiveOrangeFlowers963, 30 October, 2017 at 16:02 Posted on Planning 0

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Hello everyone,

I have written this post before but for some reason has failed to appear so apologies if it then appears twice.

My partner and I has just started the planning process and I have been looking at venues on line. However, before we arrange any viewings i thought it a good idea to make a start on a guest list to have an idea of numbers. Well, I was in for a shock...

Just family alone on my side is 40 people! when added to close family friends and other close friends that brings the total to 75! of this 75, 11 are children with 5 of the 11 being children in the family (the remaining kids are children of friends). I am happy for the children within the family to be there but (i know this sounds bad but) not that bothered about children of friends being present.

My evening guest list is 30, but i'm not too worried about the evening guest capacity.

As said, this is just my side, my partner is yet to do his list and i think it will be smaller than mine but not by much. I appreciate that there may be people invited who are unable to attend but this is the number of invites we are looking to send out at the moment. Therefore it looks like we are looking at approximately 130 for the ceremony and wedding breakfast.

I therefore have a couple of questions.

1) What number of attenddees are you having?

2) Is 130 people for the daytime too much?

3) Is it acceptable to invite children within the family and not the children of friends?

4) Did you have a method/criteria list to assist with deciding who should and should not be invited to your wedding?

Many thanks

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Beginner June 2017
Chapples · 30 October, 2017 at 16:39
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We had 70 day guests & another 60 in the evening, but that was because our numbers were restricted by the ceremony venue licence.

I think the most important thing when deciding on your numbers is, can you afford it? As long as you find the venue that's right for you, I wouldn't say 130 is too much - just make sure you're not stretching yourself too much financially as it all adds up!

We had family children only, because if we'd invited all of our guests children we would have tripled our numbers. No one minded at all - in fact everyone said they were pleased to have a day to let their hair down. I think most people will understand how expensive weddings are, & how limited you are by numbers at a lot of venues.

We sorted our guest list by making sure that we both knew everyone - i.e. no long lost cousins that the other person hadn't met, and we made sure the people that are in our lives day to day were there, over & above anyone else.
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