Guest Worries - opposite of the usual!

We're the same, most of our family has to travel so worried about no's. However we invited 166 so a few no's would be great! 12 declines and 50 acceptances so far. But we arent sending evening out intil day are back so we can bumpo people up without them knowing!

If I were you I'd set a day RSVP date 4-6weeks earlier, then if you get loads of no's you can send evening people a day one and they wont know they've been 'bumped up.' Dont send any evening ones out until you have all the day ones sorted.

Ooh where in Nottinghamshire? Just being nosy as my H is from there. We got married up that way, which meant my family had to travel. We didn't have anyone for evening though. We got maybe about four declines and I was worried about numbers but on the day it was fine, I didn't notice.

We are getting married at Rufford Abbey, near Sherwood Forest? We live in Annesley Woodhouse so it's about 15 miles away from our house so (not that I'd want to) but we can't really even offer for people to stay at ours.

I'm not too worried about his family, it's his friends - I know he really wants them to be there but they aren't all that reliable when it comes to having to pay for stuff! (petrol, hotel!)

And for such a tourist area, there aren't many reasonably prices hotels near our venue...

I am getting married just up the road fom there and we found quite a few nice and reasonably priced B&Bs in Edwinstowe, Cuckney and Budby. If you'd like details just PM me.

Thank you! I've just sent you a message!

I was hoping people would just get on the old google and find B&B's for themselves but FMIL has said she wants us to find hotels and put maps and contact details etc. in the invites. We've done this but ended up with a 14 rooms hotel about a mile away which is £80 a night (she says too expensive but we've put it in anyway) and a Travelodge which is 8 miles away but only £29 a night if people book now.

I couldn't put all the B&B's on as they only tend to have 2 or 3 rooms each and this would mean listing about 30 of them!

If I got an invite for a wedding that was somewhere I wasn't familiar with, I'd just go on the internet, whack the postcode in and see what was close but she says that nobody will do that. I know she knows them better than I do but still...

We put a list of nearby hotels and taxi companies in our invites. I've been to weddings where I've had this info too and it is really useful.

Hello. i am also getting married in nottingham (rutland square hotel) and my oh family is from Eex. I am worried that they have said ye but it seems that they see it as a massive inconveience and i think a couple of them wont turn up.

BUT that being aid...they know what hotel we're getting married in...they know when and what time...and they are also adults so i've had to give up and just let them get on with it. i have bigger things to worry about x

We had this issue, we were restricted on guest numbers due to the hotel rooms we had availble (middle of nowhere so had no other choices!). Thuoght that we were reasonably on top it, got all RSVP's back, arranged into appropriate rooms etc, sent out evening invites etc. This week we have had three people pull out, (with only 2 weeks to go!). We are now struggling to get the full numbers now as we have given in our final numbers etc and paid so want to fill all spaces!

We have invited a couple that were coming to the evening only, and someones new other half, and so fingers crossed should all be back on track!! I think you should just make sure that you have people in the wings waiting should people pull out!

If you do get a lot of no's, then that just means you will be surrounded by people who actually want to be at your wedding. Thats what we have ended up with, a smallish, but close bunch of family and friends that really want to be there and are excited about it as we are!

Thanks girls.

I've made an extra insert that I've put in with the invites that has a map of the area, with the venue marked on and the Travelodge and the nearby (apparently expensive) hotel marked on. I've put info about how to get to the venue and how far away both hotels are. I've put the phone numbers for the hotels and also the phone numbers of 6 local taxi companies.

I thought this was more than enough but I guess we'll see!