H2B has left me x

Hi Kim....I'm around for quite a while.

If you need a shoulder and an ear i'm here.....

Hi I'm awake too xxx

Morning, well I think I may've mananged an hours sleep!! Still can't quite believe it really, my head feels like it's going to explode. How do I manage without him?? He was my life and I love him. How can he just walk out?? I don't get it xx

Im sure when he has calmed down he will come back. Has he ever done anything like this before

He has gone off in a mood before but never like this, he usually just goes off has a few beers then comes home with his tail between his legs telling me how much he missed me and how he couldn't imagine his life without me. Not this time though, after he said it was over I said if he could tell me he didn't love love me anymore I would believe it and he did xx

I dont know what to say really, I dont want to be nosey, but it is rather extreme after a dissagreement.

He will obviously come and see his daughter at some point, you then need to talk to him and find out whats beneath all this. x

You're not being nosey at all, I don't think it was a major disagreement but tell me what you think....I had told him I was a bit upset as in the school holidays his mum had looked after his other son by a previous relationship maybe 2 days a week and also she had him for a week to potty train him. During this time she had not once asked if she could have our son and I was just a bit miffed that she treated them differently. We didn't argue or shout, I just gave my opinion. xx

Thanks for your message on my thread, sometimes thinking about someone elses troubles takes my mind of my ownx

Anyway I think it sounds like your man is over reacting a little bit, To me it sounds as though something else is going on in his head, Hows he coping with the baby, work, money etc?

Well my maternity leave is coming to an end within the next week and I wasn't planning on going back to my job but I have been looking for something else. We have been saving like mad for our wedding in May. I suppose he could be worried but we normally talk about things like that. What hurts most is that after igoring my calls and messages he texted to say he wants half of the savings and of wahts in the bank, is that all he can think about?? xx

Its the way they think, mine is asking about our holiday to cuba in october.

I dont think you can do anything until you talk to him, I reckon he's gone down the pub, had one over the odds and got feeling a little bit sorry for himself. I cant see how all this can come out of nowhere. Did you slag of his mum? If you email me I can send you my number and we can talk properly if you would like. ********@**********.***

You have mail xx

Don't really know what to say, but has he been down the pub with his mates and got to envying the single life while he's already a bit angry anyway. His mates may have been giving him drunken advice, mobiles are too handy to text in the heat of the moment. Two small kids under 5 is a lot of responsibility, plus if you weren't going back to work ther's the money too. Hopefully he will come round but you need to talk about the real reason behind it all. Does his ex work, maybe his mum doesn't think you want or need her to have your son, so it's not deliberate.

Blimey, I don't really know what to add, but I'm sure he will calm down and come home with his tail between his legs ?

Oh dear, i don't know what to say but didn't want to read and run! I hope he comes to his senses and that you get to have a proper chat with him later ?

Oh Kim sorry to read that, what a shock it must be for you. I hope it can be sorted out but he does at least owe you some kind of explanation and not just by text! Will giving each other a bit of space and then talking in a couple of days help? I know that is probably really hard for you as you probably just want answers now (I know I would), but maybe he just needs to sort through a few things in his head.

Hi Kim

Sorry to hear this has happened. I can't offer much in the way of advice but just wanted to say hope your ok.

As the others say maybe he just needs time to realise what he is giving up. Do you know where he is staying, has he gone to his mums?

Do you have friends and family around you can talk to?

xxx

Oh so sorry to hear that.

Did he leave his last relationship or did she end it? Was it when the child was very small? It could be he's just not coping with the pressure, that's no excuse, but it could be what is behind it.

As for money, I think I'd whip about 6 months maintenance into your personal account until you have had a chance to chat with him, presumably he's going to have to pay some kind of maintenance if it doesn't all work out and you don't want to be left up the creek while it's all being sorted out.

Really sorry this has happened to you. If this is the second relationship he's walked out of with small children he's not much of a man in my opinion.

Kim

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that you are ok. I dont know what to say really.

Perhaps he is just letting everything getting on top of him, wedding, baby, money, a lot of men get cold feet. Perhaps just leave him to it for a couple of days and he may just realised what he has and will stop being so silly.

I'm a bit late mcoming in here but just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear what has happened...have you actually apoken to him yet?

I would let him know how angry you are about the whoile thing, him asking for half your savings after "dumping you" by text is very childish I'm sorry to say.

Hope you are feeling better x

I really hope you are ok.

I hope you are ok and get a chance to speak withh him today xx

Hello,

sorry am coming very late to this thread and i hope that you have managed to sort things out by now.

But if things arent going so well can i suggest that if your bank accounts are in joint names you contact your bank to put a freeze on them as the money belongs equally to both people which doesnt necessarily mean you get half each, it means that whoever withdraws it first gets it and that could cause you issues further down the line.

I am sure that you arent thinking of the money at the moment, but if he is, you need to be too.

Take care and good luck

Hx

Sorry to hear your news, I hope things get sorted for you.

xx?

I'm coming very late to this. I am so sorry to hear your news and I really hope he comes to his senses and that youve had a chance to talk...