H2B Problems

I understand how you feel and I think I'd be a little put out as well if I'd found out some girls were going so it's no longer a boys' hol. But if H2B didn't know then I guess you can't blame him.

Sorry I can't offer more help than that. Just make him feel guilty so he brings you back a nice big pressie ?

Where is he going? and how long for?

I wouldnt have an issue with my OH going away, but i would if it was at the expense of us going away together IYSWIM

I wouldnt usually have issues with him going away. Hes been away on his own on hols before & so have I. I'm not sure why I'm so upset this time? I think maybe its because hes going away in Sept & I'm feeling upset about this.

We had decided we wouldnt go away this year as saving for the wedding etc, but hes got around that as its a friend of a friends place they're staying at so only had to pay for the flights.

Hes gone to Spain, 9 days x

I can understand how you're feeling, I'd personally be a bit taken aback if I found out there were a couple of girls going too - not because I don't trust my H2B but I'd just be confused as to why they were going if it was supposed to be a 'boys' hol. Also that my H2B is going away with girls he doesnt even know yet I wasn't originally invited! But obviously if he didn't know anything about that it's not his fault. I think it probably matters more to you because he's in the army too and as you said you're worried you won't be spending any time with him at all soon. Can't really offer much advice but have a ?

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Thanks for the ? xxxx

I think you've hit the nail on the head there with how I was feeling about the other girls going. I would be so much less annoyed if it was just a boys holiday. Its stupid but its true! I feel like he should have made more of an effort to find out who was going first, so that he could have told me himself rather than me hearing it from his brother and feeling like an idiot.

I don't blame you for feeling that way...it doesn't mean you're a jealous partner or anything, you'd just like to be put in the picture with who he's going away with! I'm really laid back with my H2B but I would be a little ticked off by that, unless the girls going were his long term friends that he's known for ages or something (he doesn't have any long term female friends actually but just as an example!). And I think he would feel the same if he found out I were going away with a couple of guys I hardly knew. But I suppose it's difficult in this situation as he knew nothing about it, so it's not really his fault. Don't dwell on it though, you'll just wind yourself up even more!

Hey I was going to send a reply but i think Stazzle is spot on! So im just sending ?'s dont think about it too much as you ll just make yourself stressed out, im a "thinker" so i stew on things and it gets me no where.

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Aaah, thanks....wanted to use the blushing icon but can't find it! Maybe this will work...[[blush]]

Hehe.. and you can quote too is the no end to your wonders! :-) i cant even quote yet (shame icon)

Yeah, just discovered how to quote, pretty happy about that ?

My blushing icon didnt work though. Im still getting used to this new forum! Am loving your bridezilla pic by the way!

I know I'm a thinker! I just can't seem to help it. I'm going to try and put it out of my mind now.....

Thanks Likewise Big Boosh fan over here !...

how are you anyway kittyboo? i really need to get a picture, I still look like a creepy man

Chin up lady xx

Im good, getting back into the planning again now going to 3 dress shops on sat [hopeful icon]. Having some BM issues but i didnt wanna post on here about it as its complicated and would probably be flamed. I tried to send you a PM on here not sure if you got it as im still getting used to this new look site malarky. Hows things going with you?

p.s yes you need a pic creepy man indeed heheh

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Love it!!!!

love the Mighty Boosh too! Anyway, Kittyboo I didnt get it! I'm going to try and PM you now............(fingers crossed)

I've sent you a private message and emailed you. I didnt know which one to do! How confusing is this new site

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Kitty, I've found your pm now. didnt know I had to look in the inbox - doh! will reply now xxx

I cant really give my advice on him going away on holiday as I've never been in that position hun.

I can give my advice on what its like to be by yourself though. I have been on my tod since January as the other half is in the navy. As much as Im proud of him for wanting to be in the forces it does get hard for me being by myself. Its alot for me to cope with means Im only 21 next month. But him being away for so long has deffinatly made us stronger as a couple.

Sorry I havent really been any help. If you ever want to chat because your lonely or just want to have a chat your more then welcome to message me any time day or night. Just keep your chin up hun because its all worth while in the end ?

Emma Louise x

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Thanks Emma Louise, thats so sweet of you. Is nice to know theres someone out there to speak to as I don't know anyone else with a partner in the forces so its hard to find someone to speak to about it who understands xxxx thanks

Why didn't you go too when he asked? If there are other girls there too it would have been fine Why not book a girls holiday so that you can have some time away too?

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Morning! As I wasn't invited in the first place I felt like I'd rather not go, as if hed wanted me there he would have invited me IFSWIM. If he feels like he would like some time with his bro & friend before married life thats fine!

Me and the girls can't go away this year unfortunately as my friend is having to have an operation & isn't allowed to travel. It just wouldn't feel right to go without her.