Before H2B and I got engaged, his parents (particularly his father, well step-father) was always asking when we were getting married, and saying how exciting it would be and how he would do this and that. Now we are getting married, it's like we don't exist. We initially thought that maybe it was due to SIL2B getting married, but that has been and gone and still no recognition of our day on his part. He said he'd pay for this and that, but nothing. They keep promising money (well again his father does) but nothing. When SIL2B got married FIL2B said he hadn't contributed anything to their wedding. She dropped herself in it (whether to be spiteful or not I don't know) and said that OH's parents had paid for her dress amongst other things. MIL2B has been supportive and is making the cake. She annoyed me previously by nit picking at everything like not seeing my dress, saying the floral spray my parents were getting for the top table had better not be like a funeral arrangement and that our vintage cars would be too cramped; but I put this down to her maybe being a little overwhelmed/upset that her son is getting married and not intentional.
I know who pays for what isn't a competition but why do people promise to do things and then not go through with it or lie about money? We have budgeted as though we can pay for this wedding ourselves so the money isn't the problem. Yes, admittedly it would help but we don't need it! We have kindly had significant contributions from my parents for the reception, my dress, BM dresses and others things. My nanna also contributed towards the reception and my wedding ring (family heir loom).
OH's father who caused a right palavour at SIL2B's wedding has ended up with H2B not talking to him, his brother (who was his Bestman) and sister; whom he has now vowed not to invite them to the wedding. This was in September and we have not heard from them since. I feel so sorry for H2B but all he says is that he doesn't care about it and we will manage on our own! That's fair enough but it must be hard for him!
I know this makes me sound like a right selfish B*tch but on the day I will reallly resent giving his parents (well his father) a thank you gift as I simply have nothing to thank him for. I intend to get my mum and dad something in private as I don't want to parade in front of people that they did more for us as it's not nice.
Sorry for the rant I had to get it off my chest...
