Had my first awkward guest- Rant Warning.

I onlyhave 2 kids at my wedding and they are my f/g and p/b an maybe my nephew who wll be 9 if he comes but apart from that its total kiddie free.. i work with kids mon-fri and i want a 'scream and tantrum' free day! common sense say if only mr and mrs are on the invites then doh- thats who the invites are for lol- will your aunt still do the flowers for u if she doesnt come to the wedding?

Does seem a bit odd, surely the offer of doing the flowers should be an unconditional one?

Agree that if you don't want kids there, then that's your choice - nobody else should moan at you for it.

Ooooooooh snap venue twin! We're not having children either except our own two bundles of joy, which will be looked after by my mum on the day at her request. Our invites have just gone out too and we had a call last night from OHs nan asking if his auntie could bring her 5yr old daughter, he just said no sorry if we let one its unfair to the rest.

Their would have been 23 children to 52 adults if we had allowed it and that would just be manic!

Its funny because me and OH we're just saying last night how strange it is that members of your family seem to assume they have a say in your day and who should be invited even the ones you hardly ever see.

It would be really bad of your Aunt to not do the flowers just because her kids aren't invited. Especially as she knew from the beginning that it was a "no kids" wedding.

Hope she doesn't say she'll still do the flowers, aslong as her kids can go, that would be awful of her.

You're not a biatch for not wanting kids there. I'm not a children person either (she says with one, and one still cooking). I only like my own.

I'm with you on this one!

There's nothing worse than other people's children ruining your day. I'm only having my son (13) my niece (also 13) and my nephew (11) and all 3 of them have jobs to keep them busy.

Stick to your guns, if your aunt kicks up a fuss it's her problem not yours.

That's dirty if your aunt won't do your flowers because her kids arnt invited!! Especially when she already knew the score!!! My stubborn side would be like 'seeeee yeeeee' but on the the other hand 2 childern could be fed for about £50 whereas another grand is a hell of a lot more to get the hold of!! I know its goes against ur premise of a chile free zone but in this case, I wud maybe let them come + explain to everyone who turns its only because ur aunt done the flowers that they were there. And, through chinese whispers of course, let the rest of the family know she blackmailed u!!!! X

Some people are unbelievable!! How can she not do your flowers! It amazes me how people can be so rude and make you feel bad for not inviting kids, tom down the road bla bla. Thats terrible though now if you've got to find a floridt and the money for it.

We sent out an invite to a work college and their g/f and they sent it back with their names PLUS THEIR child!!

Hmmmm cat among the pigeons here but if she is kind enough to do your flowers wouldn't it be kind of you to invite her children ? On the other hand if you have told others no children then have Aunties kids there you may disgruntle other guests. My best friends are not bringing their children but we would have loved to have them but we are limited on space but they are coming in the evening. If you don't want kids that is your choice and people should respect that if they care about you. If they don't care enough THEY shouldn't be invited ! It's a toughie but it is a big job to do all the flowers maybe she does deserve you to concede this ?

If it's any consolation we've had the same thing.

My brother and SIL are not only refusing to come but we are "dead to them". Fine.

OH's aunts etc did also have a big drama about it, even asking if they could pay to bring them. Errrr no, it's not financial, it's a lifestyle choice, live with it.

VM - trust me it's only going to get worse but dig your heels in. I did and ok some people are being selfish and causing trouble over it but I'd much rather that than have their poorly behaved children there.

We haven't had comments about our no kid rule yet but someone did complain because we didn't put a stamp on the RSVP card's return envelope...

Only 3 of my day guests that I was inviting have kids and even though I haven't sent the invitations out yet I wasn't keen on having them there as I have to pay adult rate for kids as my guest list is the minimum numbers. Funnily enough 2 of them have asked me if kids are included? I subtly said that we preferred to have no children but if it meant they couldn't come then of course they are welcome. Both friends promptly said no chance we want a weekend without them and are going to stay overnight at the venue, RESULT!!

With regard to your Aunt, I hope she lets you know sooner rather than later where you stand with the flowers. If you don't want Kids there don't have them.

Sadly people often struggle to grasp the concept that its your wedding day which has been tailored to you!

personally we are having children, but there will be 3 including our own 4 year old. however i would completely understand if someone else didnt want children at their wedding...its their day not mine!

hope you get the situation resolved soon!

xxx