Have I made a mistake??....

it all comes down to what you want and can afford. We are having a String quartet to play during the meal, but playing CDs during the ceremony and then have a wedding singer and a DJ at night.

its not a mistake if you want her and can afford her

Hiya,

well our venue 'reccommended' (basically said we had to!) we have a harpist or string quartet from their suppliers list.

we chose the harpist and she seems brilliant, and is playing a lot of modern songs throughout the signing of register and welcome drinks, as well as the 'entrance' and 'exit', shes also staying around for the wedding breakfast.

we are having our favourite songs played by the band, and also in between sets on an Ipod playlist were putting together which will be played through their PA system.

Cat you have all your favourite songs played in the evening?

Or if its important to you to have them played during the ceremony you could ask the harpist if she can play them, and if not then maybe consider cancelling -I know youve paid the deposit -but if you really dont want it......

Was it the one at the glamorgan arms she was good

you didnt just ring me for an appointment did you i just booked a girl in with a name similar to your user name and shes from swansea and saw me at the glam lol

The only problem is one of the songs is Paul Weller 'you do something to me' The rest are all quite slow as well. After one slushy first dance song, I feel the rest of the evening should be more upbeat. Its also a song that on a harp won't do justice.

The other problem is I suppose the wedding shouldn't be just about what I want. My fiance really wanted the harpist, my mother has always been keen on the idea (and she is paying). So I guess it's just difficult for me as it's my first compromise so far in the planning!!

Can you meet with her and ask her to play it for you

i love that song it was my first dance one too

well my 2nd first dance but my real one iyswim

I just really like the guitar sound to that song - it's what makes it for me. I was thinking of having these leftover songs put as the background music on the video, but not everyone will hear that and it won't have the same on the day impact.

I WAS TOTALLY IN THE SAME BOAT AS U- I BOOKED HARPIST DESPITE BEING ON A BUDGET & WAS KINDA REGRETTING UNTIL I WENT & SEEN HER THIS WEEK. O MY GOD...SHE WAS FAB...MADE MY MUM CRY & GAVE ME GOOSE BUMPS.I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT MY CHURCH SERVICE NOW...CHURCH CAN GET QUITE BORING BUT THIS WILL KEEP EVERYONE ENTERTAINED. SPLASH OUT ON THIS ONE...MINE WAS AMAZING

No one can tell you if your wrong or right - only you know that. If you can afford it then why not. If booking her means that you cant have something else that you want then cancel. How much was deposit?

For what its worth we had a sax player at ceremony, jazz cd during arrival drinks, magician and a jazz trio for the evening.

It's important that your fiance doesn't feel shut out during the wedding planning. If he's keen on this harpist then you probably did the right thing. It all depends on what the cost is in relation to the rest of your wedding. For example, £300 in a £20,000 budget isn't much and I wouldn't worry about it. £300 in a £5,000 budet is a big deal and you might want to reconsider if it's not something you're 100% happy with.

i think it sounds lovely and if you can afford it go with it...