Agh!
Hey hitchers,
haven't posted in a whole as work has been crazy but have had a few annoying wedding bits lately that I'm winding myself up about so I thought writing them here would be a bit cathartic and you lovely people may even have some tips or suggestions if you've had similar situations!
1. First thing that happened was our menu tasting. To go back a bit further in the story the event guy at our reception venue was awesome when we looked around - it was a toss up between two venues and he swung it to the one we picked as he was so great and we felt we could totally trust him to take care of everything. S day since signing the contract he has not seemed like he cares at all about our wedding - don't get me wrong I hardly expect him to sit and gush over flower choices with me but replying to the odd email would be nice! After not getting any response to calls or emails for a while I managed to get hold of him and calmly but clearly said I was finding the lack of communication tough and needed him to keep in contact with me so I felt reassured. He apologised and we made the menu appointment. I figured it's ok he's busy now we are closer to our date (7 weeks to go!) he will get better. You guessed it, not at all. To be clear I have contacted him on 4 separate topics since we agreed we wanted the wedding to be held there - once to say yes and get a contract, once early on when we had a list of questions, once to arrange the menu and once with a revised list of running order and drink quantities. The latest saga is he's gone back on his initial comment that it was ok to leave cars over night - stupidly this isn't in our contract so that's our fault but he was so rude to me and instead of treating me like a customer treated me like a stupid little girl who had behaved badly - I honestly felt like I was getting a telling off!
he suggested we up our drink offering as what we were providing wasn't enough - to be fair, on reflection we agreed and asked him to requote for a number of additional items. When I asked for this to be clearly set out so if we couldn't afford it we could choose which bits we could afford he said "we don't itemise, we aren't a wedding sausage factory we pull together packages based on your requirements so I'll send you a total quote and if you want to watch pennies you can tell me and we can discuss it"!!
It took me two weeks to get the quote. We decided within 4 hours we could accommodate the additional cost and emailed straight back to confirm and request a new contract (something he said wee would need) that was a week ago. Still nothing. I'm at a total loss and worried about the day now!
2. Second of all my dress was due in ten days ago, it's still not here. I get married in 7 weeks. I definitely need alterations as I've had to order big to get my boobs in - so also panicking about that. The shop owner is great and has promised me she is chasing - it's pronovias and apparently the Spanish are super chilled and take ages to reply - not sure weddings are the best industry to be in in that case haha!
3. Lastly the guests. We have been very clear from the start that our venues are a church and a reception venue which is 17minutes away by car. The only people who live local are my mum and dad so we sent invites chock full of a range of suggested hotels and taxi firms etc really early (January for a July wedding) so people could book a hotel of their choice and budget near to the venues and have a chance to save if this was the route they wanted or needed to take. A large group of our friends are travelling from an hour away from the venues so are coming on the morning for a 1pm wedding, fine by me, no need to stay an extra night if they don't mind travelling in their wedding gear! The problem comes where they need to check in - they can't check in before the ceremony because it's too early and they don't want to check in after the reception for obvious reasons! So, they've decided to go from the church to check in and then join the reception late. The trouble is, we are having a confetti shot at church (so would like as many people as possible!) and then big group shots at the reception. We've allowed travel time but they keep going on about "how much of it wil we miss if we stop at the hotel for this that and the other" and do I sent a message to the group chat the other day explaining the timings of everything and the location of their hotel and the time it would all add so they can think about how best to make it work. I get messages tonight saying we just don't get it what time are we supposed to be there and eye don't want to miss photos etc joking about how they are going to miss massive chunks of the day and can we alter the pictures to be sure they are included! Errrr why am I fixing this for you all - have I not done enough sending a detailed timing of the day and suggested hotels so people can understand and make their own grown up choices.... How difficult is it that we will leave the church by 210 arrive at reception by 230 with photos starting at 240 and dinner at 4?! Gah probably sound like a real bridezilla but it's all getting to me at the moment!!!!
