Having a moan/advice welcome!

Sounds like a typical man! Mine thinks his job for the week is done because he puts the washing machine on! You are good as I don't put away BF clothes and to be fair he does a lot of the cooking but your argument sounds much like our house lol.

I have told him that if he wants a spick and span house and dinner on the table when he gets in from wok either move back to his moms or become the main breadwinner for the family so that I can stay at home. They seem to forget that cleaning, looking after kids etc and managing the household budget is a full time job in itself!

BTW doesn't sound to me like you are moaning, I would say OH is lucky to have you!

Hope you resolve things

Firstly big hugs, it sounds like you are under a bit of stress at the moment. He sounds like he is being a bit childish IMO.

I would just do this. Stop talking about it, but print off a BIG list of ALL the jobs that need doing every week. Stick it on the fridge. If he asks, which he will, just say "oh don't worry, that's just for me to remind myself, you don't worry about it" and just be super nice about it stressing that it's not for him. Then whenever you do a job, cross through it in red. He'll soon see that YOU do the majority of the work!! and hopefully will feel guilty. If he doesn't, stop doing things that he will notice. Still tidy/clean/wash up if it makes you feel better but don't wash his clothes or make him coffee.

This. Only do joint jobs, and make sure he sees how much you do.

Don't do any of his jobs (don't wash his clothes, don't pick up his mess). It might mean you have to grit your teeth for a week or so but he'll soon cop on.

Ergh I know this feeling only too well! OH likes to remind me that he's done his job for the week.... Which is put the bin out..... I kid you not! The trouble is, I know the leaving stuff to wait for him to do it just wouldn't work. When he lived on his own it was a total pig sty. He stopped using his dishwasher for cleaning and basically stored plates in there he couldn't be bothered to wash up.... So a dishwasher of mouldy plates greeted me when I moved in.... Lovely!

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Aah poor you.....however, as he told you to sort out your own s**t, definitely take it literally and just do stuff for yourself this weekend. When he moans on Monday smile sweetly and just say "well, you did say sort your own s**t out so I assumed you would do the same"

Revenge served so sweetly!

This is what l would do. He is being lazy, selfish and thoughtless -but then again aren't a lot of men! When l moved in with in Mr Erin then l suggested we either got as cleaner or went 50/50 on house stuff. He reluctantly agreed to 50/50 but in the early days he didn't really pull he weight -"forgot" to do stuff he agreed to do, did stuff to a bad standard etc. I blame his mother as she spoiled him and did everything for him. He has got a bit better, in his head we do 50/50 but in reality it is more like 60/40 with me doing the most despite me working longer hours than him.