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Hmmm, this is an awkward one. If having the dream wedding is something you really want, I would be tempted to put it back a year. From my perspective, I think 10 weeks from birth to alter would really stress me out with worrying about how I would look - not saying you will, but I have a tendency to carry weight, and that would be my concern.

Also, if you really want your family from America to be there, you deserve to have that.

I thought I wanted a small, intimate wedding, and now I literally want it to be the best day ever - after all, you only plan on doing it once!

That said, I also totally understand why you want to be married before baby arrives.

I'm going to put something out there that might seem a bit odd, but hear me out...

Why not consider having a small registry office ceremony before the baby is due - either a 2+2 ceremony, or a very small one with just immediate family.

Then plan your big dream wedding as a blessing ceremony or vow renewal for the year after baby is born - maybe on the anniversary of your legal ceremony?

That way you get your marriage before baby arrives, but you also have the time and money to prepare for baby's arrival, and the big dream wedding you want. Plus baby will be old enough for you to leave for a night with a sitter.

That's probably what I would do - hope this helps! X

I wanted to echo what the above poster suggested as I think that would be the best compromise. In your position, I think I would have a legal ceromony before the baby is born and then a vow renewal a year or two after the birth.

‘The only thing I don’t agree with is waiting until baby is a bit older so you can leave them with a sitter. I’m sure you’d want the wedding to be a family affair and to include your children in the wedding. I think it would be lovely if he/she could be a page boy/flower girl (or similar) and think that would be a special touch.

Sorry, I should have clarified - I didn't mean to leave them for the whole day! I just meant that maybe a grandparent can take baby home towards the end of the night so that the couple can have their wedding night together

My friends got married recently and had some beautiful shots of them with their little boy, who is just over a year old, then as it got to the evening, one of their parents looked after him so that they could enjoy their evening reception and have a night together.

It's a long day, and a baby or toddler would probably be getting pretty grouchy by the time the evening do starts! X

My friend was due 29 June. About a month before, I got a WhatsApp to say they had married at Camden Register Office. She had a nice wedding dress she got for £40 from eBay. They just had bride and groom, both mums, groom's sister and auntie and adult son.

On 25 August they are having a big reception at a social club, and my friend will wear her dress again.

My friend did get a lot for the baby from friends and family, and at her bridal shower. I don't think there was much she had to get that hadn't been given to them. Baby's name is Jenson.