HELP!!! First dance nightmare!!

Why don't you each write a list of say your top 5 choices for the first song. If you have any matches then problem solved. If not, you should sit down and each really listen to the others songs - taking in the meaning of the lyrics - and see if you can agree.

I think you need to try and come up with something that you both like want rather than go for getting the song you want.

I have a totally different taste in music to my other half and I always always saw our first dance as being the "traditionall" slushy song! I had amazed by Lonestar or something by Michael Buble in mind but that wasn't OH's cup of tea! So I had to accept that I would have to re-think my ideas.

So instead we worked through ideas for AGES until we came up with something that we were both happy with, after all, compromise is what its all about! I know I could have got my own way if I'd kicked up enough of a stink but I really wanted something that showed us as a couple and not just something that was me and he'd gone along with!

May be worth waitng until a little nearer the time, your OH sounds like he has a similar memory to my OH! No point deciding too early on as the perect soing for u both could be realesed any minute!

Good luck! L x

Yeah i understand where you guys are coming from, we have got 11months to re-think it! I would love it to be a song that both of us want, and i'm sure that's what the alicia keys song is!!!

Please, please,please let the perfect song be released in the next few months!!! XXX

Crossing my fingers for you hun!!!! Totally know where ur coming from tho as this was such a nightmare for me aswell! You'll find something for sure!

xx

We had a similar issue! ? completely different tastes in the music! We've fallen back on a Beatles track that we both love as anything from the last 20 odd years was producing horror in one or the other of us!

I wouldnt worry. Im getting married in 4 weeks and still havent decided. Over the last year I have visualised us dancing to several songs and OH has voiced several opinions (many of which I poo-pooed. One particular one of him'singing to me as I dance around him' - hello? what planet is he on? I think I laughed in his face at that one) We are finally edging towards one song but it is not what either of us would have first chose, it was something we both agreed on.

Lol!! Oh god that is funny!!! I think my OH would have been quite happy for me to dance on my own while hea sat at the bar but luckily he didn't suggest it!!

I have just been playing the couple of songs that i thought might be good for the first dance to my OH,they are ...you are the sunshine of my life by Stevie Wonder and the time is now by moloko,he does not seem bothered whichever,his response was....do we have to decide now. Hope you sort it out.

It took us ages to decide as well!! im a rnb fan and hes hard core rock & metal fan he suggested johnny cash in my life & at first i wasnt sure but when i really listened to the words i couldnt imagion any other song!!!

good luck!! xx

Good choice - I think this is what I am going to go with.

What me and OH did was to play the songs back to back in the car when we had nothing else to focus on and really listen to the words to decide which one means the most or describes how we feel about each other.

Our actual "song" is Soldier Boy - Kiss me thru the phone as he is a Soldier and often sends me kisses down the phone so right from the start it reminded me of him.. However it's not a great first dance song. haha.

I wouldn't worry about it yet, we spent months discussing it based on songs we knew (we have differing tastes) but then heard a random song on the radio one day and knew that was the one!