How do say no to my VERY over powering mum, without upsetting her?
Me and my mum are very different, I use the anallogy, She's reading War and Peace and I'm reading a beano comic. She would love nothing more that a massive wedding in a plush hotel, tables laid out beautifully, a band, a real traditional wedding. But we're not like that, after the church service, it's off to a field for a hog roast, bucking bronko and drum and bass all night.
Our theme is a white, chilled out fete, the bridesmaids are wearing white, the men are wearing cream linin suits, with no ties or waistcoats, all the flowers are white and there are no formal table settings, just grab a beanbag. This is my mums worst nightmare and it's killing her to pretend to me. She just seems to hate everything I choose.
I also brought my dress by accident, (it wasn't planned!) whilst away for the weekend with a friend, so I feel massivly guilty about that, so I'm saying yes to things now that don't want, because she does. She brought me a tiara, which is nice but it's gold and I dont wear gold, I wanted a big white flower in my hair!!
I am so worried about upsetting her, but I'm not being true to myself.