Okay ladies help please
Im planning my wedding on my own, my h2b works abroad in afghanistan 3 months then home 3 weeks and so on, i havent really got "that" relationship with my mother, so she hasnt really helped much and my 2 adult bridesmaids just havent been involved because they have too much going on in their own lives and we just dont really have the same tastes opposite in fact, plus I have a very clear idea of what I want anyway.
So down to the problem, I am wedding flipping mad, Im getting married in May 2013 and i'm a worrier, so budgets, checking and double checking with suppliers, trying to get everything organised but with 80% of the year spent on my own, 3 children to look after and only me planning this I am very aware that I need to be on top of everything, I'm feeling very let down now although many would see it as my own fault as ive not really let anyone in to help me.
My mother wasnt around when I found my dress and she still hasnt seen it although I plan on taking her again when the schools go back, but I am worried that she wont like it and feel embaressed if I have to change it, although I dont want to as I love it but what if she hates it or what if I have made the wrong choice? My bridesmaids have been in pain in the backside when choosing a dress even though Im paying for everything down to underwear!! one has been trying for a baby and is now pregnant but they cant afford to have this baby, so bridezilla me (or a very non bridezilla just perhaps a slightly ott bride) now feels let down, this maid has been avasive when talking to me, isnt coming out for with me the night before the wedding for a few drinks/dinner with everyone else, hasnt mentioned the hen night and probably wont come because of the cost and has now said that they cant afford to stay over at the venue either night fri/sat and will leave just after the sit down meal, ive been planning this wedding since Januaray 2011 and have had the venue booked since Feb 2011, she knew about the costs re accomodation and has been saying that she will start paying monthly to cover the costs for the past 10 months but never has, I know that a wedding is such a big cost and i'm aware that things for her at the moment are tough, she is one of my best friends but I do feel let down! and I have been wondering for the last few days if I should ask her to step down as if im honest id rather have her at my wedding than stress me out and leave early, perhaps the cost of being a maid is too much for her and being a basic guest would financially be better, meaning she wouldnt need to get to the venue early, feel forced to stay over etc or am I being ott should I just let her carry on? even though it feels like she is doing it as a chore rather than an honor?? the venue is a good 2hrs away from her home so its not like its a stroll down the road or in the next town
What do you think?
