HELP me make a decision!!!!!!

My personal preference would be to go abroad the week after the wedding............couldn't you do the cottage later in the year? Maybe in the summer hols?

That's my personal preference too ! Although I don't know what she'll say is that cheeky of me? X

I'd go to the highlands for the week after the wedding - that way you won't have to stress about getting a holiday booked the day after your wedding when you'll probably be ready to relax a bit! You can also just chuck a few things in the car and head off without having to worry about anything. Plus you'll have a fab holiday later on in the year to look forward to and will be able to take your time choosing it. We're planning on doing similar anyway so that's probably why that option appeals to me.

If you chose the second option what would you do if you don't get enough money for your honeymoon from your guests? If you can't get any holiday at all you'll be so disappointed!

I think a week in the highlands straight after the wedding will probably be lovely. You'll probably be knackered, and a week of seclusion and relaxation will probably be much appreciated! It's beautiful up there and there are lots of nice drives/walks you can go on, plus various tourist attractions depending on exactly where you are. You can always go abroad on a 2nd honeymoon (or just a nice holiday!) later on.

Completely agree with this.

Take the lovely offer which means you have a definite plan in place and you don't have to worry about money and running around like a blue arsed fly trying to get something sorted the day after your wedding when really you should be relaxing and basking in the glow of being newly married

I just realised I used "probably" three times in two sentences. Ooops.

I would go for highlands too, such a lovely offer and no stress either.

Ooh I'd go for the cottage too. It sounds like a much simpler, less stressful option (I know I'd be stressed leaving it until the day after but that's just my personality so perhaps it wouldn't be so bad for you) A week in a cottage in the Highlands sounds like my kind of thing-a nice relaxing break to spend with your new hubby and then you can save the money and try to book something later on.

Ultimately though I think it completely depends on your personal tastes- if you would both prefer a holiday abroad then go for that :-) You'll be able to get something last minute I'm sure :-)

Go for the relaxed Highlands option. Not least because:

this is by no means a given. Which means you could be left without any break after the wedding.

Another definite Highlands voter here!

Accept the kind offer and relax in the knowledge that you would have a definite SOMETHING to look forward to rather than leaving things hanging in the balance. If the weather stays fine, great- plenty of lovely scenery, walks and picnics. If it's a week grotty, what does it matter? Cosy seclusion with your new husband.... Sounds fab to me!!

Then save up and see what happens re access, new babies, foreign deals etc. If you manage to get a holiday abroad later in the year, bonus. If not, you'll have still had a very romantic honeymoon :0)

We will be having one night in a hotel- utter luxury. Other than that, OH has booked the week off work following the wedding and we are just looking forward to having 'us' time while the kids are at school. Nothing planned but we are really not bothered. It's the time together that counts xx

Highlands too! We'll probably wait to book our honeymoon too, it's just an added expense we don't need at the moment. If someone offered is a free week like that we'd be there like a shot!

I vote for the cottage straight after the wedding too! Mini-moons are v popular at the minute, we're doing something similar then planning the maxi-moon somewhere exotic about 6 months after the wedding. It will give you something to look forward to, and as long as you plan it within a few months after the wedding, being pregnant or not won't matter!

I vote Highlands too. The thought of doing more manic planning straight after my wedding to book somewhere else puts me off! I could see me and OH getting stressed at each other and that wouldn't be the start I'd hope for. I would then book to go on a 2nd honeymoon later if you can with your gifts. Although only you know what is right xxx

I Doubt the last thing you would want to do, or feel up to doing the day after the wedding is going holiday shopping. I would go for the Scotland option and then spend a lovely time planning where you may like to go on Honeymoon later in the year.

Go to the highlands first then use the money you get to book another holiday! Saves stress of booking last minute. You'll have an amazing time no matter where you are! Even if it rains a good old game of monopoly is always fun!

Xxx