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Help needed - Bridesmaid change of mind

RACHELEVANS123, 19 October, 2009 at 16:42 Posted on Planning 0 1

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Hi,

I was wondering whether anyone has any advice. I asked my friend to be a bridesmaid at my wedding (summer next year) and i really feel like i want to withdraw my offer!! We have grown apart, she never asks me questions about the wedding, when i mentioned plans for my hen do she actually rolled her eyes! She hasn't said anything about not doing it but I just be-grudge spending money on her when it's not what i really want anyway. As a bit of background i was her bridesmaid, which is part of the reason i asked her in the first place!

Arrggghhh - such an awkward situation!! Oh, i have two other bridesmaids as well who have been fantastic, so i won't be short if i don't have her.

Any advice would be great! Rach xxxx ?

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kat2000lp · 19 October, 2009 at 19:00
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Hi Rachel,

Im in a similar situation to you to cut a long story short she has been my best friedn for 18 years but we have grown apart and only really this year have been seeing each other again, so I asked her to be my moh, but since then she has shown no interest, ignores my texted regarding the wedding, hasnt asked about the wedding or my plans. So I have now asked my other close friend to do it who has actually been there for me come dress shopping etc. When she finally gets round to texting me I will just be completely honest with her.

I think your just gonna have to bite the bullet and be straight with her, at the end of the day a wedding is a stressful time and you want someone who is gonna be there for you, and I have said this to myself why would I want someone to be my bridemaid who has no interest and will keep letting me down! then theres there the money your gonna have to fork out for her.

Good luck let me know how you get on!

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Karen1980 · 20 October, 2009 at 07:11
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I think perhaps it depends on how you see your friendship in the future? If you arent bothered, arent close and can never see you being that way again then harsh as it may seem drop her.

If however you do miss her adn want to be friends then maybe meet up for a drink and explain to her? pehaps she has other stresses in her life that you dont know about as you arent so close? or perhaps she's feeling left out or hurt that your moving on and having a great day and she feels left out? Its not justification for her behaviour but perhaps reasons?

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