Help needed on children at wedding

I don't know how old your children are but usually any children of the bride and groom are included in the immediate wedding party,i don't see why they can't be ushers etc and wear suit etc . I think your MIL to be is being a cow.

Thanks for that they are 6,8,and 15, not having any luck on usher front as getting married in hotel,

They certainly can be groomsmen! Whyever not? I mean unless there is an actual law saying so? It wouldnt be fair to have one child so involved and the others relegated, in my opinion anyway. Tell the mil to shove it up her ar$e!

At the end of the day it is yours and H wedding so if you want to do something, do it xx

So is the 15 year old being best man? Are the boys to old to be ring bearers,one each? You can do what ever you want i think,my kids are 16/13 and 3. Two bridesmaids ,one pageboy never thought anything of it really.

Are you having OOS/OOD - can they hand those out?

Could a couple of them pair up and take a guest book around?

Ringbearer(s)?

My son will be nearly 12 when we get married and will be one of the "best men" he's said he doesn't want to do a speech, but we'll see nearer the time, but he'll have a couple of little jobs like looking after the rings during the ceremony and giving out OOD's, whilst my OH's adult best man will be doing the speech and toasts

Hi, Welcome to hitched

I had a 12 and a 15 yr old from my first marriage, when i got married again. My 15 yr old gave me away and did a speech at the reception. My 12 year old was ring bearer. We got married in a hotel too and it worked really well. They all wore the same suits.

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WEES it is your and your OHs wedding not your MILs! cowbag! I really hate that other people take over weddings. Such a shame that she is doing this?

I couldn't agree more with what everybody else has said. They are your sons and are just as important on your wedding day as your youngest son.

You've got to do what's right for your kids in this one. And I suspect them all having similarly important roles is the right thing. There are plenty of roles they can have. Is one of them brave enough to do a reading, probably best to pick something child friendly for this but they may relish it. Or what about signing the register for you? I don't know if there's an age restriction but if not who more important than your kids to witness it for you?

I think its really important for your new family, that all the boys are treated equally. Both in clothes and their roles at the ceremony. Whyever would they not be?? Your MIL has a lot to answer to, giving you this stress! Your 2 young sons could have a ring each and be ushers? Good luck

Here's the plan:

Tell your FMIL to naff orf. They are your kids, it's your wedding and her opinion doesn't count.

Get the boys suits to match everyone else.

Call them groomsmen, men of honour (boy bridesmaids), ushers, attendants or anything else you want. My vote is that they choose what they want to do.

My son (13) is 'man of honour', he will be wearing a tux along with my nephew (11) who is an usher, and he will be doing the 'best man speech' as our best man is a woman and would literally wet herself if she had to stand up and speak.

Its your day so do what you and your OH want.

Your boys can be ushers or whatever you like. Have them in the same suits to show unity as a new family.

Big raspberry noises to your MIL.

I agree, if it were me all my children would be treated equally. Does yours and your fiance's son have to be best man? Could all your children not have equal roles? Just a thought.

If it was me I'd have all the children dressed in the same - so if one is in a suit, tie, matching the groom etc the others are. There are lots of roles they could play;

best men, ushers (even if not in church they can still seat people, hand our OOD, confetti, etc) ring bearer, reader, you could even have the older one as a witness if he is old enough. (I was my dad's witness at his 2nd marriage when I was 16) They could escort you down the aisle to give you away. I would definately give them all 'roles' if one is having a role.