HELP?! To take FMIL to dress fitting or not?

In your shoes I wouldn't bother taking her. If this is your penultimate fitting she'll be seeing it soon anyway!

I wouldnt take her in this situatution either,

You could however sell it to her by saying you are looking forward to seeing her face when she sees you in all your finery, hair etc, and dont want to spoil the surprise. Make her feel special rather than a PITA.

Nope I wouldn't bring her either! She's not seen it up till now a little while longer won't make much of a difference!

I wouldn't take her either. Does your h2b know what she's said about your taste?

And does she realise what she's saying about her own son by saying it?! ?

I wouldn't take her either.

You love the dress, she won't have any influence, you'd LIKE her to feel she's included, she's done some little jobs for you, OH would like it if you took her. She doesn't deserve it but I say take her, get it over and done with and be the bestest DIL ever

I feel like a right meanie compared to some other posters I've seen on other threads as I've not involved my FMIL at all. She's seen the venue and OH has probably told her a few bits and bobs but that's it.

OH suggested that I take his mum dress shopping and I just didn't want her there. She's nice enough but I have absolutely nothing in common with her so I prefer not to spend any extra time with her if possible - I must sound horrible! Plus I want as few people as possible to see my dress before the big day.

So in your position I wouldn't invite her along for fittings, especially if she's a bit critical.

He's normally there when she says it... his general response is 'thanks mum'!

Half of me thinks that her sounding so bitter about not having seen the dress means i should take her... but the other half of me doesnt want to hear her comments

forgot to mention she is not happy that we booked a november wedding because 'smokers (his parents) will be cold'

and she doesnt particularly like the venue because she 'has to walk upstairs to the bar'

Hmm so her critique of the venue and the date are based upon the ease with which one can smoke and drink. I have to agree with the poster above who commented on her "rabid dog" phrase. Her poor son!! They aren't really arguments with good foundation are they.

As for the dress fitting, I would probably ask her along. It makes you look good and the bigger person if she has a history of being unkind towards you, and if she is going to pass an unsavoury comment at least get it out if the way before the big day. You never know though, she might be lovely. Sons' mothers can be a bit funny, I'd let some of it ride although I have to say she has an unfortunate turn of phrase!

If you are worried about her making those awful comments and it's going to upset you, then I wouldn't bother taking her. It's too close to the wedding to start having potential wobbles - induced by MIL, so I would just quietly not invite her and just go with those you want to take and feel comfortable with.

If it comes up later on that she would've liked to have been there or felt she wasn't included much, then you can just say your reasons for not doing so. You don't owe her anything. You need to look after yourself and make sure you feel (and of course, look) your best in the run up to the wedding. If she was my MIL, I'd keep well away!

Thanks for the replies... I'm still in two minds!

Haven't mentioned it to her still but i might double check with OH if he knows if shes working tomorrow... if FSIL cant make it i'll have to take her :/
I might go for the 'i cant wait until you see it on the day' option...

Hmmm.... if you take her and she is on her usual form and is rude, will it upset you?, probably yes ....but in the privacy of the bridal shop you can be free to feel or get upset if it makes you feel that way. More importantly, you are also free (and should) defend yourself. Nip it in the bud before the big day.

She should be grateful to be asked - you could have asked anyone and you needn't have asked her at all. If she is included in this special occasion, he least you deserve is respect and some positive comments about how pretty you look.

There is nothing wrong with you asserting yourself and telling her not to be rude about your choice and reminding her that she is not there to pass negative comments. You are not her child and not someone to be controlled like her daughter. Quite the opposite. It is neither her day or her dress. She will get no sympathy if your words upset her and your hubby to be should back you up - who would offer sympathy to a mil who upsets the bride at her fitting? - noone!

On the other end of the spectrum, If she is not rude will it make you very happy

if you dont take her and she is rude on the day of your wedding, it will upset you more and you wont be in an environment where you can assert yourself.