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ExpensiveBrownStationery362, 21 October, 2017 at 07:55 Posted on Planning 0 2

Hey gang... I essentially need to uninvited someone from my wedding in March.

Invites are going out to friends THIS WEEK, so she hasn't had an official invite yet. Bit of a backstory- She's my best friends from university and we have another year and a half left of studying together. Since September she's been horrible to me. She's very overbearing, snappy and just plain rude really. She was only coming to the evening do anyways but after an incident the other day I don't want her to even come to that.

My problem is, when we first met and I was discussing the wedding (mostly as a point of excitement, not to invite her) she essentially invited herself. As we became better friends I would have invited her anyways but she went and booked a hotel room as soon as I first mentioned the wedding, before even getting an invite. To add insult to injury she's booked a room at the reception venue, which we had reserved for long distance family, taking the last room.

The friendship is virtually none existent now, i just don't know what to do in terms of sending her an invite seeing as she's prematurely booked a room. I know it's not my problem if she loses the money, it's just the headache she will cause... Knowing her she will turn up and cash the wedding anyways...

HELP

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Latest activity by ExpensiveRedCars840, 24 October, 2017 at 00:42
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    HappyBrownConfetti849 ·
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    Sounds like she's going to show up whatever you do, you could hope that without an official invitation she'll forget and not show -but the hotel room makes this unlikely.

    Could you attempt to amicably end the friendship? I know you're saying it's effectively over, but if you could convince her that you're "drifting apart" or some other BS and get her to be okay with that you guys aren't friends she may decide it's for the best she doesn't come to the wedding.

    Or just call her out, ask what's happened and why her behaviour towards you has changed and how she's making you feel. Let her know that if it continues you would prefer her to not be at the wedding

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    Sounds like she's going to show up whatever you do, you could hope that without an official invitation she'll forget and not show -but the hotel room makes this unlikely.

    Could you attempt to amicably end the friendship? I know you're saying it's effectively over, but if you could convince her that you're "drifting apart" or some other BS and get her to be okay with that you guys aren't friends she may decide it's for the best she doesn't come to the wedding.

    Or just call her out, ask what's happened and why her behaviour towards you has changed and how she's making you feel. Let her know that if it continues you would prefer her to not be at the wedding

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    In my experience, you can't assume you're going to a wedding unless the invitation is in your hand. If she has booked to stay over surely she's entitled to free cancellation? This is your day and if you're even questioning someone being there then they probably shouldn't be there. I know it's easy for me to say but of worse comes to worse can you send her an invite for an evening reception? If distance/travel is a factor she might not even go so win win haha

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