Help - what would you say??????

You could just not say anything and the next time she mentions it just say.. oh sorry we already found someone xx

I would get in there quick before she brings the photos round and just say be totally honest-thanks so much for the offer but we have decided to go with xyz for our photos...or a little white lie and say thanks but we had a fab offer we couldnt turn down but needed to book him immediately??

Dont you hate it when people put you on the spot like that?? I know they mean well but my friend has 'offered' and now assumes she is doing my hair.....but i never said yes and dont want her too arghh!

Yes I do, it really does put you on the spot. She also asks me how much everything is costing too, which I really hate. The tog we like is quite expensive, so I may fib if asked, but I rather not tell her at all.

Why don't you say that at the tim e you spoke to her you thought you hadn;t booked anyone, but H2B had sorted it out!

I think this is where a little white lie is acceptable! I'd say something along the lines of...

"Oh, I'm really sorry but the tog had a really good deal on so we booked then and there."

and then either of the next two lines depending on how much she's mentioned it:

"I completely forgot you'd said about this, I just have so much going on"

Or

"I just really didn't want to put this on to your mum and her feel like she couldn't say no to us even if she thinks it'll be a long day / too far to travel"

You could always say your parents or inlaws are sorting your tog out as a wedding present and they already have someone in mind? xxx

I think this will work the best for my situation. When she mentions it again, I'm going to say this, and that we have booked someone already. And then hope she doesn't ask for how much! ?

If she does just say "err, I can't quite remember. We had so many leaflets thrust at us at the last wedding fair that I can't remember. What a nightmare I am..."

In all honesty, I'd wait to see the photos before writing her off. It may only have been a hobby of hers, but she might actually be really good - and you'd get the bonus of it costing less than hiring someone, and because it's someone who knows you and your family, you might be able to get some more intimate shots than if you have a stranger taking the pics.

I'd just hang on a bit before saying you definitely don't want to use her. Give her the same consideration you would for someone who makes a living from photography.

The same friend asked this very question! Unfortunately in the knowledge that we chose it together!

I'd prob wait to see the photos if you aren't sure what she's like as you never know you might be pleasantly surprised but if you are not keen just say that you found a tog and you loved their different style and all the new arty stuff etc etc. Also blame it on your OH that he was really keen etc, that always works!

Ilalicit - did you get my DM about eliza claire?

No I didn't, but this is the photographer I really like, and I'm now arranging to meet her. All thanks to you! ?

Would love to see your photos though (I think that is what I messaged you about originally?)

You could get your H2B to say he'd booked it as a surprise already and didn't want you to know as he'd planned just to take you and show you all the stuff he'd already done for you. and maybe it could be a company who you really really wanted who you tried to book and they'd had a cancellation!

I had a similar situation with 3 cake makers all wanting to do it for me but told them H2B had done it already! :/

i *promise* i replied! will try and re-forward it on. the reason we didn't book liz was mainly because i didn't know about her! plus she had only just started doing shoots then. PLUS, one of my friends' husbands is an amateur tog, and had done another v.good friend's wedding, and we were happy for him to do them (my husband is not very good at having his pic taken, so preferred to have someone he knew doing them). he only charged us the cost of renting the equipment.

it was through hitched i met liz (she's sometimes here under the username crantock), and i won a treasure the dress shoot with her through the raffle, which is how i know her pictures are amazing!

if i had known liz at that point, we would have definitely booked her. i really cannot recommend her highly enough.

(i should work on commission for her...!)