Help with invite etiquette

I had this discussion earlier! One of our ushers is with a woman we have never, ever spent any time with. We've met her briefly once. I said I feel like I don't want a stranger at my wedding when I am leaving out people I'd love to be there but can't because of numbers.

I'm still undecided about whether to invite her.

So no, I don't think you're out of order x

If it was one or two I'd probably say invite them but in this instance I think I would consider them to be more like work mates so, personally, would invite the lads to the day and the wives to the evening.

Were you invited to any of their weddings? Not that that necessarily means you have to invite them, but it might give an indication of whether any of them might be expecting their wives to be invited.

For the odd one like an Usher I would invite the partner. For groups just the group, if I was invited to an evening do by a work colleague I wouldn't expect to have a plus one.

We are kind of in the same position. My partner has 6 close friends all of which have girlfriends and i'm only friendly with 1, in fact I can't stand 2 of them. However to keep the peace as it would no doubt blow up if I invited two of the girls and not the others they are being invited. Although are being sat on the table at the back out of the way haha

I don't think is out of order! Is your day and you should dictate who you want there!

Personally, I will be inviting all the partners of our friends, if they are their OHs, then it means a lot to them, and I wouldn't like to be left out myself and only my OH being invited to a wedding, for example.

Are you inviting all the partners from your friends-side? What about the groom asks them how would they feel with the plans? Maybe having a feeling from them and from the partners could avoid falling outs and any atmosphere you wouldn't like if one day in the future comes and you become friend with their partners too!

Hope this helped.