HELP WITH MY DILEMMA !!!!

Only you really know the answer to this. What's most important to you? Your best friends or the weather?

For me personally I wouldn't want to do it with having my best friend there so would try and change the date so that they could come. Have you sent out save the dates yet? And how much of your day are you planning on being outside, and how big a part of choosing your venue was based on the outside space it offers?

The weather is so unpredictable in this country that you may end up with a rainy day in June and a dry mild day in October!!

Go with your heart on this one, you will know already what is most important to you.

Personally, I would swap it and if it's any help, my daughters birthday is 2nd October and pretty much every year we have been basking in the sun at her parties.

There's always the coin toss test. They say that if you flip a coin and assign heads or tails to either option, you'll know for sure what you really wanted because you'll either be pleased or disappointed...

If it were me, I would go for when I can have my best girls by my side. I am sure they would be gutted to miss your special day too.

Yes, October has a higher chance of rain, but June also has it's moments too. Nothing is a guarantee in this country. If you are mega desperate for a summer wedding, could you change it to July 2016, when the summer holidays have started?

Oh I hope you get this pickle sorted!!!!

In honesty I would say this a no brainer. You go for the date that you best girls can make. Yes I might rain but it might rain in June too. Added bonus, it's out of wedding season so you should be able to get better deals.

Nightmare! We set our date at the end of January and are marrying in September. It has meant a few family members can't attend, and one of my best friends is emigrating in July so she can't be my bridesmaid. If there was something I could have done to make sure she could be there, I would have, even if it meant marrying in October - and I was adamant that I would not marry from October to March!

it is difficult but in my opinion it's the people that make your day special, and you never know you might have good weather. June certainly has it's fair share of rain - look at Wimbledon and Glasto :-) good luck making your decision.

I haven't sent any save dates or invites out yet so that wouldn't be a problem, we are getting married in a small village church which is directly opposite the reception venue which is an oak beamed barn style hall with a small outdoor garden space which we plan to have a marque in.

Like the others have said, I would change it. In this country the weather is never guaranteed and you could well find that June 12th next year it's peeing down, whilst 3rd October is glorious sunshine. Having nearest and dearest around will counteract any of that anyway

This. Bit of a no brainer for me...

I vote 3rd October!! Although I am biased as it's my wedding date!!

When you say all other weekends are booked, does that include Fridays in late July/Aug?

If I were you I'd change it. I'm getting married in April, but it can rain any day, any month, so please don't choose based on what you think the weather might be! Your decision but you obviously care about your friends a lot so I think you would regret it on the day..... I hope you come to a decision you are happy with :-)

June 12th and October 3rd.... You can't guarantee a sunny day on either, so I'd go for the latter.

Plus, you just said they're putting up a marque, so who cares if it rains?!?!!

My friend got married October and it was a beautiful hot sunny day. My fbil got married June and it was the windiest coldest day. The month will not guarantee the weather unfortunately. Only you can decide the date but I wouldn't choose expecting glorious sunshine after I attended the wedding in June dressed for summer but looking windswept and blooming freezing! :-/ lol

October gets my vote too - just think how upset you would be if you stuck with June and had a rainy day and without your besties.

We're having a November wedding, so planning for inclement weather and anything better is a bonus!!

I agree with all the other comments really. You cannot guarantee good weather on any day in England so I really wouldn't base your wedding on this. For example, we had torrential rain just this past week!

For me, my two best friends would be more important. xx

Exactly what I was going to ask. Your teacher bridesmaid will be off during the summer holidays so why not a Friday after the July date the other friend has given but before the end of August?

I get married on Friday 3rd October this year :-) I'll let you no what the weather is like but every year is different, last June it was the worst rain ever and October was scorching. You really can't predict the weather in this country at all so just go with what you and your partner feel is best

My sons birthday is early cot and he always has nice weather.

Weather wouldn't be a decider for me thought ( getting married in April!)

i would want my best friends there!

This ^^^

If I had the choice between a guaranteed nice day in June but my best friend couldn't attend, or a guaranteed vile day of wind and rain with my best friend, I'd go with my friend being there any day.

June can be one of the wettest months of the year as you will have seen from some of the downpours we have had so far this year. Today is the equivalent day to next year and it's not looking promising at the moment

6th Oct 2013. My Step-grandaughter was christened. We were all outside in the baking sun nipping indoors to cool off.

But agree with everything that's been said. The only guarantee you have with the great British weather is that November/December/January/ are generally a lot colder than June/July/August. For the others, you just never know, and as for wind and rain. Look at last week with the hail and storms some people had. Go for the date that suits you and deal with the weather at the time.

I'm in a similar boat getting wed next April. It literally could be anything from cracking the flags, torrential and horizontal rain to 6' of snow. Yes it's a bit of a nightmare but we can't predict it so will just deal with it on the day. x

My opinion would be to stick with your original date because everything you have already planned on doing is set on that date and just so there would be no regrets or what ifs. What if your best friends won't be able to come on the moved date? That could end up terribly. Since, you still have about a year to plan it out, you can also convince them to go on your preferred date. I know I did and they can't resist for sure. For me, this is you and your future OH's wedding, no one else's.

Good luck!

You unfortunately can't control the weather, you do however have control (well a certain amount anyway) on if your friends can come. No brained.

I would move the wedding. There is plenty of time to get everything moved. I chose a date in half term on purpose so my teacher BM could come without worrying. Also I got married in Feb it was cold but really really sunny. I wsa outside for an hour or so without a jacket but at my SIL weddign in May I was freezing as were all the guests ans bridal party as it was so windy and a bit rainy. The one thing you cannot control is the weather (in the UK anyway) but having your friends there is within your control. For me there is no dilema.

Ahhh such a shame! 2 of my friends are teacher so I kept this in mind when booking ours. We went with Thursday 27th August 2015 as it's summer holidays. I don't think i would change the date if I'm honest. Although it would be upsetting my 2 best friends not being there, I think if they really wanted to be there then they would! My teacher friend said to me if my wedding was a weekday out of the school holidays she would just take it as unpaid leave......don't mean to be horrible but that's just my opinion x

What a horrible position for you to be in! I agree with the majority who have already responded - if it were me I think I'd change my date. It's likely that you won't really remember the weather, especially if much of your time is spent inside, but you'll remember who was there with you. The lasting memories will be bolstered by photos and you'll notice the absence of your friends.

My sister got married at the end of October 2012 and although it was a bit chilly in the evening, it was warm enough during the day to be outside for photos and it didn't rain. My OH has been a wedding photographer and he says that an overcast day is even better than a sunny day for photos due to lighting. I would 100% swap to the 3rd October as you will be thinking about your absent bridesmaids ALL day if you go with your original date. Alternatively I know it isn't ideal but could you wait until 2016 and book a summer weekend then?

Dawn

How very blinkered. It's not as simple as just taking unpaid leave - you have to be given permission by the headteacher even for unpaid leave; if s/he says no, you could still find yourself unable to attend, even though you're willing to lose a day's pay and pension contribution for it.

I've recently had to apply for a leave of absence (a couple of hours, not even a whole day) to go to my soon-to-be-step-daughter's school for a meeting. We arranged the meeting for this coming Monday as I knew I'd be turned down if I applied for it before the GCSE exam was completed. A colleague of mine was unable to attend the wedding of a close friend as she was refused the leave. Her husband was the best man. She still couldn't go.

It's incredibly unfair and ridiculously naive to say "if they really wanted to be there then they would"

I think you have your answer as if these friends were so important to you then you would have ensured they could both make the date before you even booked it.