Hi all,
really need advise as this is tearing me apart and my oh as much as he tries is really no help and just doesnt understand.I should start from the being, my dad brought me and my brothers up as our real mother left when we were 2 and 3 years old so never knew her. my dad got remarried when i was 6 and went on to have 2 more children,as i got older my step mother resented me which lead to her making my dad chose between me or her and their children,which he chose her and threw me out at the age of 16.Now my dad has 2 brother neither of which he gets on with (never has done since i can remember) anyway my dads brother and his wife (so my aunty and uncle) took me in (they cant have children) and have been like parents to me ever since. right hope you are all still with me.
so when i got engaged to my oh,i should point out at this point that we dated in school and lost touch when i moved from wales to england to live with my uncle and aunty, it seemed only natural and the right thing to do to ask my uncle to give me away as he has been a dad to me and i have had no contact with my dad for 10 years.however my brother (who i was extremely close to)suddenly passed away begining of the year which has lead to me and my dad and step mum getting together again and they have said they want a relationship with me as my brothers death and the fact my step mum has cancer has made them relise life is too short. we have all been getting on really well and the past has been put behind us, but now this leaves me with a massive dilema. i would really like my dad and stepmum and siblings to be at our wedding however i still want my uncle to give me away.and my dad and step mum hate my uncles and the hate my dad. how the hell do i aproach the subject with my dad i dnt want to hurt his feelings but at same time if my brother had not of passed away then he wouldnt be talking to me now and my uncle has been a dad to me all these years.but equally i want my dad there.
any advise i would be greateful its causing me sleepless nights
x x