Help-info required please.

According to your only other post, you got married in Vegas???

Hmmmmmm!!!! Confused...

Unfortunately that did not work out. In my only previous post I was just trying to help someone else, I didn't realise I would be checked out in order to warrant a reply, but thank you anyway.

At the end of the day your wedding day is supposed to be happy. If your oh doesn't want the big do then you need to scale it down. If you lose deposits then that's one of those things. Happiness matters much more than money. You can still have a beautiful wedding and what matters is that you are both marrying the love of your life.

welcome to hitched

Many thanks Pammy67 you are right. Will have a chat and see if he would like to do that. indeed he is the love of my life, thank you x

Could you scale down the ceremony/day bit, then still have 100 or so for the evening do? In my experience grooms are most nervous about the speech and the ceremony, both of which are daytime things, for the evening its the first dance that's the most nerve wracking. Lots of people these days don't do the first dance especially if they don't like attention so you could cut yours depending on how you feel about that. If you still want it, just make sure he has enough alcohol inside him to cope with the nerves!

P.s. thanks for spelling 'lose' correctly!

Hi, thank you for that advice, actually I had not considered those things. We will certainly have a think and chat about that and you are dead right it's the churcg and speeches that are doing it. Thanks again x

We had the speaches before the meal so that people who were doing them could relax and enjoy themselves rather than worry all the way through the meal etc.

Also the groom doesnt have to make a speech, you could always do one instead. Its your day, do it how you both want

Have a chat with him - some photographers can do pre-wedding photo shoots to get people more comfortable with the camera which might help him? My OH isn't going to do a speech (he has a bit of a stammer which he really struggles with when he's nervous) so think I'll be doing one instead and dishing the pressies out!

May be an idea to try and get him to meet a lot of the people who will be going before the big day so it's more a room of friends than strangers if your side is bigger numbers wise?

Good luck! x