Hen Night - Am I over reacting???

And they didn't tell you they'd been out? Even the next day? That's a bit odd, definitely. Only if you had said you want to be tucked up in bed ready for the next day could I understand them going out without tellling you in case they didn't want to disturb, but it is weird as if they were going to go out I don't see why they wouldn't have mentioned it and checked if you wanted to come before you all went to bed. And I really don't see why they wouldn't have talked about it the next day!

I don't really have any solutions to offer, sorry, as I'm sure you don't want to fall out with anyone, but I would be tempted to at least comment to them, or on the pictures a bit of a WTF??? And see what they come back with. You know your friends best and surely it was just a drunken, last minute decision while they were still in the bar and you were in bed thing? But I can understand you feeling weird about it and particularly the fact they didn't say ?

Oh i would be annoyed about that for sure!

Uch thats not very nice! i don't think you are over reacting at all like you say it was your hen night/weekend after all, they could at least have asked if you wanted to go out, if you didn't then fair enough but they shouldn't have been sneaky about it.

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Nope no mention of them bein out at all! Everyone decided to call it a nite and we all went up to bed together!

Thats wat im thinkin is that som of them got to their room and carried on drinkin and decided to go out.

Dont think their really is a solution just tryin to get my head around wat happened really.

Its one of my friends baby showers on sunday and i dont realy want to spoil it for her by sayin anything until after then, but i think im goin to hav to say something in the end. just feelin a bit sorry for myself!

I agree with lamby, it probably wasn't sneaky, or indended to be offensive, just a spur of the moment drunken thing. A bit off, since it was your weekend, but focus on how much fun you had and how happy you were to see everyone. I think you are entitled to be peeved, but don't fall out just before your wedding, it might spoil your day.

I'd be really peeved off about this, even if they thought you were asleep they could have knocked and said we're going out do you wanna come!

But then not to mention it the next day, it's almost like they were hiding it from you.

I'd have to say something to my girl's, i'd find a subtle way of saying it but i'd definately have to say something!

Hope it hasn't put a downer on what sounds like a great weekend.

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Oh thats rubbish, no wonder you feel awkward about it and upset, but what you can do...

other than go to your pals baby party n leave after 30 mins coz you fancy going out and doing something else...... (but maybe thats just me...)

it was a wee bit cheeky of them to do that, but at least they were still able for the saturday activities. Maybe thay should have said to you bout going out, but maybe they didnt want you to feel that your plans weren't enough or something like that. you could ask them where they went and see what they say. Dont feel bad about it tho!! you thoroughly enjoyed your weekend, and thats the main thing! ?

I would be upset too. It might have been a spur of the moment thing but they could have at least told you the next day.

I just dont want to sound a like a spoit brat moaning about them not inviting me but then it has realy upset me and there was no mention wat so ever of it and the album its been put under is not under my hen night but a random nite out (unfortunately the person who put the album up must think im really stupid as the pictures are of the hotel room and of bars which are in nottingham which we went to) so yeah it has all been hidden!

Im organisin the baby shower muggins that i am 3 weeks before my wedding! so dont think i could realy bugger off (plus its not the preggers friends fault!)

Im goin to hav to say something as its really buggin me i just wanted to check that i wasnt over recatin and bein a drama queen about it!

Thanks for ur opinions girls!

I'd be completely peed off! The fact that they haven't told you they went out the day after shows they knew they shouldn't have. I think it's SO rude that they did that and I'd go nuts.. But then I'm a complete Brat lol.

Ive had a good think (mostly wallowing in self pity whilst at work!) and som of them actually got changed to go out so i dont think it was a complete spur of the moment thing. Also had a chat to my bridesmaid and shes fumin but made a very good point that one girl (always one) - didnt want to split the bill at tea as she didnt hav that much money but then could afford to go out drinkin!!! Ive tried to be rational about it all and think of excuses for them as they are my friends after all but I dont think there is an excuse for them they are just plain RUDE. Thats my second rant of the day over with!

You are not over reacting. I would be reacting the same. It's rude imo.

I think your completely within your rights to be peed off! I'd be really mad! (but mainly upset and disappointed - as you are). It's a horrible feeling to feel that you've been intentionally not included in something. It was your hen weekend and you should be the main lady. I think it's really sneaky to go out (and getting dressed up definately means it wasn't that spur of the moment!) and to then hide it the next day and put it on fb and try and hide it (crapply I may add) just proves they obv feel guilty and know they did the wrong thing!! Tbh I'd be pretty upset even if I hadn't have been the hen and they had gone out without asking me when we were all staying in a hotel together! It takes 2 mins to text someone I think you should bring it up, even if it's just to make them feel guilty because obv it's too late to do anything about it now, but I still think you should make it known that you know so that they can apologise and feel like crap!

Aw dear thats not very nice to leave the hen out! i would definately speak to them becuase you do seem very hurt about it all. i would hope that they were just being drunken fools and didn't mean any harm just decided to be naughty and sneak out but.....just to play devils advocate, if you have been acting like a bridezilla recently towards them then maybe they have there reasons for telling you.

I think it's really out of order, even if it's a spur of the moment thing... I would be mad too! Talk to them definitely!

You poor thing! I think that's terrible behaviour! I'm not very confrontational so I'd just make sure you don't go out of the way for any of the girls that went out. Weddings are a great way to find out who your real friends are (or your jealous friends!) - can you find out who the 'ring leader' is? There's bound to be one!

Big hugs and don't let it ruin any of your planning!

x x x

You're definitely not overreacting, I would be boiling if this happened to me!!