Hen night problems

Ummm, personally, as she's spent time organising it for you, then I would just grin and bare it. You never know, you might have a good time!

I know i sound ungrateful, but she is not organising something i would like, and she knows it. she is planning her ideal hen night, which is very different from mine.

I know i should just grin and bare it, but to be honest, it sounds like a rubbish night out and i would rather go on the stag do for a curry and beer, nice and simple.

I completely agree with you on this. I have sat through enough god awful hen nights which are just not to my taste at all but I've done it and done it with a smile on my face because it what the bride to be wants. I however don't want this and don't want it forced on me either which is why I arranged my own so it could be exactly how I want it. I'd have to tell her that it's not what you want at all and suggest something that is a bit more 'you'.

But is it too late to salvage it and make the hen night exactly what you want?

I understand what you're saying CD, but for some reason I assumed that the hen night is extremely soon. If not, then you MUST discuss with her and tell her exactly what you don't want. Infact you should have made it totally clear at the start what you do and don't want on your hen night.

If it is within the next few days, then you will just have to grin and bare it.

It is this saturday

I told her what i wanted months ago, and have repeated my wishes a few times, but at the weekend she declared that she had bought some 'fun, hen do things, just some typical stuff' and that we would all be ridiculously drunk.

It sounds silly but i would be so embarressed by her if she is so drunk as she can get! She is terrible, loud, mouthy, insulting to strangers, and generally is not fun to be around!

All i wanted was a nice meal, with a few drinks. one of my friends has already told me she doesnt really want to go from what she has heard from BM, so i am going for separate meal with her. Its just all going wrong and im not looking forward to it at all!

Yet i know i should be thankful to her for organising it! I feel bed for not wanting to go to my hen night, but its turning into everything i hate about hen nights!

Why, oh, why did you let her organise it then?!

Can you phone her today and just stress again, how much you DON'T want w!lly glow in the dark earrings or an "L" plate veil?

My other BM was supposed to be doing most, but BM J who is making this situationhas just gone ahead and taken over without involving anyone else!

I have tried explaining ans she just tells me to chill out and stop being so fussy! I am so annoyed with her! she is being so unhelpful!

Is there any chance she knows this is exactly what you don't want and is winding you up?

Good point.

I thought this too. And when you get there it will be a nice meal and sophisticated cocktails. Or afternoon tea (I really want that for mine)

That is what i was hoping, but a few friends have mentioned that it doesnt sound fun and I have end up having one main hen do, then go for meals with others over then next 2 weeks!

I cant see it being a wind up if other people are saying about it too!

And the friend who is officially not going is not the winding up type! I love her but she doesnt do joking around or wind ups or things

I would talk to your BMs again. Let them know that some of your friends are no longer coming because of what has been organised - its not what you want and now your friends don't want to either. Ask please can they change things so that its more to your taste.

Run away. As farrrrr as you can. So not my cuppa tea either, fain illness or take an emergency train ride......

and goodluck!

If you want a nice meal/drinks, then book somewhere and tell her to cancel whatever she has arranged.

Or speak to her, flat out ask her if it is going to be what you want, and then do the above.

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Oh God my worst Nightmare ?

It's your wedding and your hen night you really have to be very blunt with her and tell her that you SSSSSooooooooo don't want any of the tat she's organised!!

My plan is to bugger off after 5 mins because I'm too stressed and feel poorly ? then meet up with the normal people and carry on elsewhere

HTH Jen xx

Right. My firend who dropped out, I have convinced her to come, on the condition that she sits near me, and we sit at the end of the table. She is going to be driving, so if it is awful we can sneak out, and then if she by some miricle gives me the night that i want, I have everyone i want there!

Sound ok?

She had ordered a cake, a penis cake, with icing decorated like ***. Mum told her its not a good idea. Hopefully there will be nothing like that!

I am really dreading it. And i know how bad i sound for moaning about it!

Ok.

stop moaning and tell her. I DONT WANT THIS HEN NIGHT. I DONT WANT COX CAKES, L PLATES, DEELY BOPPERS, BANNERS, FLASHING HAIR BANDS, FORFEITS OR SHOT DRINKING COMPETITONS.

Be firm. Be an adult. Tell her.

TeeHee, do you mind if I phone her in the morning and quote you?

Go ahead!! Let us know how it goes...... if she moans about it then shes not much of a friend with YOUR interests at heart.

Well, the stripper was cancelled! All we ended up with was a small veil, with NO condoms, a feather boa, and some whistles, sweets etc which i hid in my bag!

Was not so bad in the end, but it did take another phone call from my mum after i was told to have a laugh and lighten up

Glad it wasn't too horrendous, piccies or report perhaps? Go on - you know you want to ....

Good to know!!!!! And its not necc about lightening up, not all hens want the aforementioned horrendous nightmares and your mum of all people should know you better than most. anyways glad it went well.